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ari_o ([info]ari_o) wrote in [info]fandom_wank,
@ 2009-10-05 00:52:00


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Entry tags:assburgers made me do it, bitter so bitter, boo hoo, but i'm not like that!, community: fandom secrets, cult of nice, dan fogelberg's llamas, do your research, eli roth is not a yeti prince, enormous clusterfuck, f_w is serious business, fandom: avatar the last airbender, fandom_wank's thoughts on yaoi, flouncing, girls you're all pretty!, goddammit you guys be funnier!, heidipology, i see stupid people, i swear i will turn this comm around, ianto is crying, in ur wank - swapping our foodz, interrogating from the wrong perspective, let's all get along, look how much i don't care, lost the lulz, lurk moar, mommy make it stop, not good with criticism, oh my god sarky tags noooooooooo!, omg mock people mock, passive-aggression with tags, phosfate is a whore, please mommy make it stop, raised by hyenas, sep declares vendetta on this poster, sep is a whore, shame on you dirty whores!, snacky's a whore, sorcha's a whore, stop sharing your thoughts, taking it too seriously, the classmate did it, think of the children, this is not funny, this was no chicken, too many fucking tags, wanking inside the house, we love jf tags, we made you and we can break you, what is wrong with you people?, what the shit is this?, whut, yet another entitled hp fucktard, you're all assholes

Also I know the ponies hate me
snatched from [info]wank_report

"Someone" posts a secret (#114 now bahleeted--caps?) on [info]fandomsecrets and the image is stored on her easily identifiable photobucket account. She claims to be lonely and not have any friends and she wishes the Avatar characters were her RL friends. But she means local friends, not imaginary intarweb bitches her LJ friends.

Responses are mostly of the "Oh, snap!" variety except for the "What am I? Chopped liver?" one. It's really a very mild response though [info]yukinoomoni is outed by name.



She posts and does not overreact at all:


"*facepalm*
Oh, honestly.

First of all, I don't care if people know who I am.

Second of all, read the fucking whole thing in context.

Third of all, you know what? Take it out of context, I don't care.

That's how I feel. When I come home, I don't have people to hang out with in my neighbourhood.. When I want to talk to someone about something, I have no one I can call. With the exception of one person, who I am not belittling, what I posted was true.

I am fucking so sick of it.

I try to explain myself. I try to express myself. And I get people misinterpreting me, not getting it.

You're going to think what you want, so why do I bother posting anything anymore?

If that's enough to make you hate me, if my loneliness in real life makes you hate me, if the fact that I wish I could have friends makes you hate me, then fucking hate me and be done with it."

eta: F_W is not your therapist. If you can't lol at a wank maybe you need to go for a walk. I thought this was funny. lol sociopath.



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[info]kittenwings
2009-10-05 05:45 am UTC (link)
*makes sadface* I kind of understand.

Hi, I'm anti-social and have social phobia (plus Aspergers plus depression what a wonderful liiiiiife) WHEE. Normally, I get out of the house once or twice a week unless my mom pushes me. (I'm 18. I live with my parents.)

I'm hoping to get a warehouse job so I don't have to interact with the public. My SO lives in NY. I tried living with her and her family for three months, but it didn't work out (House too isolated and I can't drive.)

I don't have any friends here in utah. I try from time to time to find people around here on the net, but I freak out when I think of meeting them in person.

I don't have therapy yet, I had to drop my last therapist. I'm still looking around. I'm on parents insurance for eight more months, but the shit insurance doesn't cover many therapists.

TL;DR whine whine I'm a scaredy cat hermit.

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[info]aewgliriel
2009-10-05 05:50 am UTC (link)
You're in Utah, too? Your story sounds a lot like me, except add ten years and remove the Asperger's.

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[info]kittenwings
2009-10-05 05:54 am UTC (link)
Haha, yup! My line is "It would be a perfect place to live, if not for all the fucking mormons."


Note: I'm ex mormon. :P

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(no subject) - [info]aewgliriel, 2009-10-05 05:56 am UTC
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[info]rachelmap
2009-10-05 09:17 am UTC (link)
Growing up non-Mormon in Utah was probably the best possible preparation for being an expatriate I could have had. So there's that.

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[info]ari_o
2009-10-05 06:05 am UTC (link)
D:

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[info]kittenwings
2009-10-05 06:05 am UTC (link)
Did I make a wank?

I'm sorry, I'll clean it up.

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(no subject) - [info]ari_o, 2009-10-05 06:20 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]kittenwings, 2009-10-05 06:22 am UTC

[info]blue_penguin
2009-10-05 06:57 am UTC (link)
I'm sorry for your situation and all, but you seem to have mistaken [info]fandom_wank for [info]unfunnybusiness. We like to try to be funny around here.

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[info]ari_o
2009-10-05 07:16 am UTC (link)
Though we're failing miserable lately and Mercury is out of retrograde now.

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(no subject) - [info]blue_penguin, 2009-10-05 07:27 am UTC

[info]imp
2009-10-05 08:33 am UTC (link)
But what about those of us don't think making fun of people for feeling alone and like they don't have anyone to talk to is very funny at all? I come here to laugh at fanwankers, not the depressed.

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(no subject) - [info]blue_penguin, 2009-10-05 08:41 am UTC
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[info]jar
2009-10-05 11:45 am UTC (link)
Whoa whoa whoa-- there's a difference between [info]fandom_wank and [info]unfunnybusiness? NEWS TO ME.

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[info]stella_polaris
2009-10-05 12:56 pm UTC (link)
Way to be an ass!

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[info]aloysius
2009-10-05 03:06 pm UTC (link)
What? unfunnybusiness? I thought this was share_your_off_topic_personal_unfunny_anecdotes

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[info]kittenwings
2009-10-05 06:29 pm UTC (link)
Actually I did. HERP DERP. I didn't realize this was f_w until I posted the comment. Sorry!

And I didn't really want to delete it when people started replying.

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(no subject) - [info]gunshou, 2009-10-05 08:17 pm UTC
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[info]seiberwing
2009-10-05 11:11 pm UTC (link)
Did unfunny run over your toes or something?

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[info]feelingcold
2009-10-05 07:59 am UTC (link)
I get that.
It feels like such a stupid thing to complain about, but I'm honestly at a loss as to how to make friends. Before I moved all my friends had been around since kindergarten. I don't get how people can just start talking, or how that becomes friendship. I know how stupid that sounds, but seriously, how do people do that? When I force myself to talk to people it's really awkward and I'm always afraid I'm freaking them out.

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[info]spacelogic
2009-10-05 08:11 am UTC (link)
The 1950s have some helpful tips!

(Not mocking you -- I'm not exactly brilliant at the friend-making thing myself, to put it mildly -- but this is F_W, so I thought some humor was called for.)

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(no subject) - [info]feelingcold, 2009-10-05 09:22 am UTC

[info]lim
2009-10-05 09:02 am UTC (link)
For serious: find a point of commonality, show interest, and make yourself useful. Ask the person in the next soulless cubicle if they want anything from the coffee shop. Accept their doughnut. Take an evening class and, after you've gone two or three times, offer a lift to someone if they're going the same way. Ask them about their day as you drive. Find something nice to say about them--most people have something pretty cool about them that you can notice and mention, and noticing it and mentioning makes you like them, and then it's easier to talk to them. Volunteer. Read a paper or watch a mainstream tv show, like a reality show or a popular soap, every now and again so you can participate in the conversation. Join a club based around something you enjoy--a community choir maybe, or photography. If you just keep going, eventually you'll get used to people, and they'll get used to you, and the bonus is if you're all engaged in an activity, you can do that instead of interacting when you start to freak. Consistently repeat that you're not really that different or special, that other people are just as scared and awkward as you are inside where you can't see, that most people would like to have friends, and that you're not a murderer or a dangerous psychopath (I hope), and that it's likely they'd be pleased to know you.

Next week: how to fake hearing the conversation in bars, the boolean approach.

My social skills are pastede on etc.

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(no subject) - [info]risha, 2009-10-05 01:59 pm UTC
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[info]rodo
2009-10-05 12:14 pm UTC (link)
Talking isn't the key. I have absolutely no problem talking to people. I do have problems making friends. I just don't manage to make an aquaintance into a friend.

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(no subject) - [info]tetradecimal, 2009-10-05 02:53 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]rodo, 2009-10-05 05:36 pm UTC
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(no subject) - [info]plazmah, 2009-10-05 05:00 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]duende, 2009-10-06 06:27 am UTC
*TL;DRs back at you!*
[info]imp
2009-10-05 08:43 am UTC (link)
Aww... Hug? :(

I don't relate directly, but my brother/best friend (I love the kid to bits) has kind of a social phobia too, and has a lot of trouble interacting with people he doesn't know. He doesn't have any friends IRL, though he does have some great friends he met online, and is also looking for a warehouse-type job because he seriously can't handle anything else.

I know it can be hard for everyone else to wrap their brains around it, but for some people, socializing is really difficult and stressful. I feel like I have trouble grasping it sometimes, even though I live with someone like that - if you don't have those problems it's easy to look at that scenario and go "what a weirdo, why can't they just talk to people?", but it's SERIOUSLY not that easy for everyone.

Even if the person who made that secret isn't in the same kind of situation, I think a lot of people have had a time in their life when they just feel pretty damn alone. I feel sorry for them and hope things get better.

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Re: *TL;DRs back at you!* - [info]kittenwings, 2009-10-05 06:28 pm UTC
Re: *TL;DRs back at you!* - [info]talec, 2009-10-05 08:06 pm UTC

[info]cie_anthy
2009-10-05 11:04 am UTC (link)
I *totally* understand. *hug* I have pretty strong agoraphobia (which has gotten worse in the last couple of months), and it's so difficult to deal with people, which means it's hard to make friends.

However, I did end up with a *great* bunch of real life friends anyway - because I joined a gaming group. See, I can't deal with people I don't know when we have nothing to talk about - I *hate* talking about myself (in real life, at least, I seem to be doing pretty well here :P), and there's only so many times you can dodge that when in a 'getting to know you' conversation. But in a gaming group (or similar things), there's already a topic of conversation, and it's so easy to take the pressure off of you.

So my suggestion is to find some interest you have in common with a small group of people - a book club, a gaming group, an art class, etc. - and see if you can handle trying to go to a first meeting. If not - no loss! You're in the same spot you were before! If you do go, you might have a lot of fun and decide that yeah, you can handle a small interaction like that. The other nice things about these sorts of groups is that they're on a schedule, so you know it's coming up and don't have to set up anything on your own (I'm horrible at that). No pressure to choose a time or date or get back in touch with people about it.

I hope you find something (in real life, on the net, whatever) that makes you happy. :)

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(no subject) - [info]kittenwings, 2009-10-05 06:31 pm UTC

[info]pyrrah
2009-10-05 06:44 pm UTC (link)
Man, I'm sorry D:

I'm a muslim in the bible belt area. So, while I'm incredibly social, I sympathize because it's really hard to make friends here (and I don't drink, so that kills off my other options).

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(no subject) - [info]sequinedlizard, 2009-10-05 08:49 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]pyrrah, 2009-10-05 09:58 pm UTC

[info]serai
2009-10-06 02:58 am UTC (link)
Honestly, you don't sound like you have any of those things to me. You just sound like you need a better world to live in. I'm serious - I've gotten so sick of people being "diagnosed" with all kinds of shit when they live in a world that's designed to drive us all mad. I mean, geez, you live in fucking UTAH. I'd want to hide in my closet and never go out if I lived there!

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(no subject) - [info]kittenwings, 2009-10-06 03:08 am UTC

[info]oodlesoquim
2009-10-08 04:43 am UTC (link)
Oh, cool! There are tons of Utahns here :O. I'm also one.

Sorry to hear that you're lonely. I also have depression and some other issues -- including not being able to drive!

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[info]lakme
2009-10-09 03:07 am UTC (link)
Have you tried medication? Did wonders for my brother.

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(no subject) - [info]kittenwings, 2009-10-09 03:09 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]ari_o, 2009-10-09 03:11 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]lakme, 2009-10-09 04:11 am UTC

[info]acostilow
2009-10-10 03:57 am UTC (link)
The easiest way to make a friend (and yes, I know, I'm late to the party, whatev), is simply ask a question, and listen to the answer. Ask someone about their kids, ask them about their job. Ask me about my pets, I'll frellin' talk your ear off. Most people like to talk about themselves, so if you listen, viola. Seriously.

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