The movers and shakers of fandom don't want to answer my questions, they don't want to be bothered with my moodiness, and they certainly don't want to cater to my needs, which are emotional in nature.

merricatk has a post here written during WarningsFail, where she says fandom is not a safe space and readers have no consideration for writers and people who require warnings should suck it up or whatever, but her last paragraph says her "trigger" is being ignored or left out of discussion of her own work. So I guess she has a history of weird passive-aggressiveness.