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Flik (![[info]](http://www.journalfen.net/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small} argylespy) wrote in ![[info]](http://www.journalfen.net/img/community.gif){kind=small} fandom_wank, |
Ditto the above about the user who made the original tumblr post, like holy shit.
I mean, they can't be THAT blind, can they?
Honestly? After reading through the entirety of kumquatwriter's blog entries about her experiences with him? I'm not convinced that it's willfull blindness.
It's not the same sort of situation, but I grew up in a household with an emotionally abusive mother and I recognized a lot of the tactics Andy used on kumquatwriter as one's my mother used on me and my brothers. Manipulators and emotional abusers are very good at spinning the truth to what suits them and spouting it with such conviction that you have no choice but to believe it.
Now that I'm out of that house, I can easily see the lies my mother would tell me, but at the time while I was still living there, it was simple to just listen to her say things and believe her wholeheartedly, despite evidence to the contrary staring me right in the face.
Hell, about two months after I moved out, the second or third time I'd seen her since, we got to talking about an arena that had recently opened in the neighborhood I was living in. I mentioned that I was within walking distance of it and she immediately got on my case about it, how I couldn't possibly be that close to it, there was just no way, and just generally trying to convince me that she remembered the city she hadn't lived in in almost thirty years (long before the arena was ever even planned, and she was living in a different part of the city entirely anyway) better than I did having only just been there a little over an hour ago.
And she still had such an influence over me that when I was walking around my neighborhood in that direction a few days later, I had to confirm to myself that I was as close to the arena as I had thought, despite even having checked on Googlemaps during that conversation.
If these people have really read the history and accusations and are still defending him? I doubt it's just because they're sticking their fingers in their ears and going LALALA hoping to drown everyone else out. It's because Andy has probably already addressed them in such a way that they've been convinced that the rest of the internet is either lying, or unjustly attacking a man who's already ~*apologized*~ and has ~*moved on*~ and ~*changed*~.
I mean, they can't be THAT blind, can they?
Honestly? After reading through the entirety of kumquatwriter's blog entries about her experiences with him? I'm not convinced that it's willfull blindness.
It's not the same sort of situation, but I grew up in a household with an emotionally abusive mother and I recognized a lot of the tactics Andy used on kumquatwriter as one's my mother used on me and my brothers. Manipulators and emotional abusers are very good at spinning the truth to what suits them and spouting it with such conviction that you have no choice but to believe it.
Now that I'm out of that house, I can easily see the lies my mother would tell me, but at the time while I was still living there, it was simple to just listen to her say things and believe her wholeheartedly, despite evidence to the contrary staring me right in the face.
Hell, about two months after I moved out, the second or third time I'd seen her since, we got to talking about an arena that had recently opened in the neighborhood I was living in. I mentioned that I was within walking distance of it and she immediately got on my case about it, how I couldn't possibly be that close to it, there was just no way, and just generally trying to convince me that she remembered the city she hadn't lived in in almost thirty years (long before the arena was ever even planned, and she was living in a different part of the city entirely anyway) better than I did having only just been there a little over an hour ago.
And she still had such an influence over me that when I was walking around my neighborhood in that direction a few days later, I had to confirm to myself that I was as close to the arena as I had thought, despite even having checked on Googlemaps during that conversation.
If these people have really read the history and accusations and are still defending him? I doubt it's just because they're sticking their fingers in their ears and going LALALA hoping to drown everyone else out. It's because Andy has probably already addressed them in such a way that they've been convinced that the rest of the internet is either lying, or unjustly attacking a man who's already ~*apologized*~ and has ~*moved on*~ and ~*changed*~.
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