Hi, this is KumquatWriter. So, JF won't recognize my LJ username, and won't let me register for a JF name because of bots or something. So I've asked a dear friend to post this on my behalf until JF gets it's bots settled.

I feel really weird commenting - I've always steered clear of contributing directly to wank sites, mainly out of fear that people will think I'm just stirring the pot. Really, that's the only reason; there aren't many places to talk about this stuff offline.

I do want to clarify on Andy's matchmaking. During the DAYD heydey, he convinced two young people to get married. They did not know each other well and were married off within a couple of months of meeting/dating. The second couple were the ones who went on the "Trail of Tears" hike.

Neither couple is comfortable making their experiences public, but I can say I have talked to/met (at least one half of) both couples. I *can* say publicly that neither couple is WITH Andy anymore, that both pairs were deeply hurt by Andy's actions, and that both couples acknowledge that Andy really pushed them into it before they were ready. Happily, both marriages are currently still intact and happy - these are great, loyal young people who do love each other and are additionally bonded by their shared trauma/experience. Not a lot of kind words for Andy from them, obv.

As for me, I'm always willing to answer questions (with the standard privacy proviso). I don't always reply promptly, but I will reply. It just has to be in the windows of time when I'm not busy mothering, wifeing or endlessly cleaning. And apparently, when the bots approve.