What's Clay's address?
embraceable_you on the clay_aiken community asks for his home address, and when confronted with replies saying it's invading his privacy, she edits her post with "EDIT: i take it the people who said i was a stalker didnt watch the VH1 special last night because clay said he gets TONS of fan mail at his home in NC because his moms address is LISTED IN THE PHONEBOOK. i would have looked it up myself, but i live in MASS." She is then told that Clay's mum had to get their info unlisted because of it.

Later on a friends-only post ellinger posts the following :

Ok, this is in regards to the post about Clay's address to send gifts to. OMFG people! Grow up! She asked for the address to send gifts to like so many have in the past. And the only reason any of y'all are saying "respect his privacy" is ONLY because he said something on the VH1 show. If he never mentioned that, many of you would say "Oh, when you find out what it is, will you PUHLEEZ email it to meeee???"

Most of your comments were really mean, and uncalled for.

Furthermore, as most of you probably claim to be Clay's biggest fan, do you actually think Clay himself would comment to her question the way many of you have by giving false address and making fun of her question?

Honestly, I'm so sick of this Middle School teasing, that I'm seriously considering leaving this community.

Comments are divided between "It's still invading his privacy" and "I totally agree with you!" A mini debate between _solitaire and ellinger ensues :


_solitaire :
And the only reason any of y'all are saying "respect his privacy" is ONLY because he said something on the VH1 show. If he never mentioned that, many of you would say "Oh, when you find out what it is, will you PUHLEEZ email it to meeee???"

Well </i>that was uncalled for. There's no reason for anyone to need his home address period. So shush.

And I'm sorry, if you feel you need to leave the community then do so instead of talking about it. If you want to syay, then, again, shush.

You're only creating more drama.

ellinger
OH OK, so IF I choose to stay, I'm not allowed to say anything because YOU say so? You tell me to "shush" and not post things Clay related that are on my mind? Um, ok.

_solitaire
I'm just saying it's pointless threatening. This post really wasn't necessary. Don't school me on how to behave and then get indignant when I choose to school you right back.


embraceable_you replies :

do people not understand its in the phonebook? and did people not realize he said he hated when people SHOWED up to his house and he didnt mind the letters.

its not like im going to show up at his damn house and ask for an autograph! thats damn rude! sending a letter is nice and it shows that his fans appreciate his music.

lol, and as ellinger said, if someone had it, you would want to know what it was too.

pricelessone makes the best comment :

Not broadcasting someone's home address on the internet is common courtesy. Regardless of the person in question, the right to privacy is something everyone is entitled to- especially when it involves their home and family. There is a fan club address for mail. That's what it's there for. There's no need for anyone asking for his home address, or the address of his mother.

I'm sure this would be true of any one of us...if somebody who we didn't know asked on a public forum if anyone knew our home address, we would be mortified, scared even, and rightly so.

We may all be fans, but that does not grant us access into every aspect of Clay's life. I realize this request was made with good intentions. However, with it being as easy as it is for information to fall into the wrong hands, I would discourage any sharing of this kind. You may want to speculate, or do your own checking- use your own judgement over that, but asking for private information on a public forum is not right.

Someone posted above that if one were to address their mail to Faye Parker of Raleigh, that might work. I just wanted to reiterate that. Seems reasonable.

Also, I hope that among this community, we can respect each other. There are ways to go about pointing out mistakes or errors in judgement. Being tactful is also a common courtesy, and all of us would do well to embrace it. I think it's regretable that anyone is considering leaving, and it makes me cringe that fellow fans would join in ostricizing one of their own over simple misunderstanding, and miscommunication.

I have to head to bed, but I just wanted to extend my position. Take care, everyone.

sigh!