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	pokecheck 2005-07-25 03:05 am UTC (link)
	Are you just curious or are you trying to argue against the NWS icon crackdown? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	blackjackrocket 2005-07-25 03:11 am UTC (link)
	Why is it that every time I've questioned something lately, I'm OMG arguing? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	wankprophet 2005-07-25 03:36 am UTC (link)
	Jesus, there's no call for arguing with pokecheck. S/he was just asking a question.... (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	blackjackrocket 2005-07-25 03:49 am UTC (link)
	And so was I. Ok, sorry. I know she had no way of knowing it, but it's happened a lot lately. I'll ask a simple question and people will jump on me for 'arguing' even when it's just when I want to know. When I pursue it, I get charged with 'flaming' even though I'm nice and polite. Again, she had no way of knowing, and I apologize. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	wankprophet 2005-07-25 03:58 am UTC (link)
	Okay, now I feel bad. I actually do recall you seeming to argue a point a little overmuch not too long ago, to the point where it seemed that you were taking it too personally, but I was just teasing here. Probably should have used a smiley..... (Reply to this)(Parent)

	pokecheck 2005-07-25 04:18 am UTC (link)
	Is this a game of questions? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	blackjackrocket 2005-07-25 04:20 am UTC (link)
	Like on Whose Line? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	pokecheck 2005-07-25 04:24 am UTC (link)
	It's on Whose Line too? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	blackjackrocket 2005-07-25 04:25 am UTC (link)
	You didn't know? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	pokecheck 2005-07-25 04:26 am UTC (link)
	Have you seen Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	blackjackrocket 2005-07-25 04:27 am UTC (link)
	No, have you? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	pokecheck 2005-07-25 04:29 am UTC (link)
	Do you like Gary Oldman? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	blackjackrocket 2005-07-25 04:31 am UTC (link)
	Wasn't he in Batman Begins? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	pokecheck 2005-07-25 04:33 am UTC (link)
	Was that the one with Christian Bale? (Actually, I have to go now. They're going to put holes in our walls tomorrow and I have to empty the closets...woe.) (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	blackjackrocket 2005-07-25 04:35 am UTC (link)
	(Crapdaddies, just when it was getting good) Yes, have you seen it? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	drhenryjekyll 2005-07-25 08:05 am UTC (link)
	Yes, was it good for you? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	apoplexia 2005-07-25 08:37 am UTC (link)
	Are you asking me? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	drhenryjekyll 2005-07-25 04:35 pm UTC (link)
	Do I look like I'm talking to you? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	apoplexia 2005-07-25 04:42 pm UTC (link)
	Do I look like I'm listening to you? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	drhenryjekyll 2005-07-25 05:14 pm UTC (link)
	Don't you like me? sob (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	apoplexia 2005-07-25 11:18 pm UTC (link)
	Do I know you? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	slackerbitch 2005-07-26 12:17 am UTC (link)
	Who are all of you people again? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	(Anonymous) 2005-07-26 02:36 am UTC (link)
	Why do you ask? (Reply to this)(Parent)

	drhenryjekyll 2005-07-26 05:16 am UTC (link)
	Don't you remember last night? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

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plazmah, 2005-07-27 05:34 am UTC

pokecheck
2005-07-26 05:05 am UTC (link)

It might be the way you ask. What you consider "simple" can come off as blunt and challenging. Try putting "just curious but..." or something like that at the beginning of your questions.

And if you don't get an answer right away, let it go. The more you keep at a topic, the more you seem like you're challenging the answers you get, even if that wasn't your intention. The more you persist at a subject, the more people will think you have invested in it.

Repeatedly responding with a question (outside of a game of questions) can also be seen as argumentative, even if you're just looking at different angles of the same thing. It can come off like you're pointing out flaws in someone's statement. If your response to someone is the equivalent of "yeah, but..." you've got a good chance of rubbing them the wrong way.

It's really hard to communicate tone over the internet with the lack of nonverbal cues. Yeah, some people are just oversensitive, and some people are just having a bad day. But if a lot of people are telling you you're being argumentative, check the tone of what you've said.

Hope that helps.

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