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NM ([info]narcissam) wrote in [info]hp_cornfield,
@ 2006-06-11 19:19:00


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Teens ship R/Hr. Grown-ups ship H/Hr.
Angelsslave the 'DON'T MOCK MY DOCTORITES!' Danemman psychiatrist is also a fervent H/Hr debater. As are all grown-ups apparently.

On the Emma Watson shipping wars thread, she brings forward some important points. (Open registration to view.)


It all makes perfect sense, so why are we still getting OBHWF shippers coming in and debating Ron's take on it all?

It's not about Ron why can't you all see that? - why does all your thoughts centre around Ron? my last recollection was the Hero was called Harry not Ron and its about his journey not his friends?
Might this suggest shipping isn't the main point of the books? Just a thought.

It's not about Harmony either, it's not about the romantics of the story it is about the alchemic work and where it all fits in?

Do you think JK would have done all this research into Alchemy and not show it it in her work?

As Laura and Terri and even myself and Paul have tried timelessly to point out that what we are discovering, uncovering is how JK is actually writing her work. we are not teens with silly ideas about what constitutes as being a relationship! we are more inclined to study the format and research into where JK has got all her information from. And Laura demonstrated quite clearly and presicely the alchemic journey that the main central people take - that Harry and Hermione respresent!
The teens take objection to 'we are not teens with silly ideas about what constitutes as being a relationship!' Angelsslave comes back to clarify her stance. She's not devaluing their immature point of view at all. It's just a fact.
sorry i didn't mean to insult, what i was merely speaking of was that the general consenous was that as young teenagers you are seeing it from your prospective and we as in the older generation are seeing it from ours.

I am terribly sorry that i offended you
prongs 69, born in 1969 and a big fan of angelsslave's concurs:

I think personally as you get older, you do actually look at things for a different angle and we are all only expressing our opinions on how we see it is all. nothing more nothing less...that's the way i see it anyways....
Another adult fan, madame pomfrey elaborates further on how adults are mature and ship H/Hr:
I also want to defend Gill a little too on her comments on Teens compared to the adults. One thing all of the teens on this board need to realize is that as adults, we have already lived through our teen years and contrary to what most of you might think, most of us remember those years very well. So when we look at things we are able to look at them as we would have as a teen but also as an adult with years of experience to give us new and wiser perspectives on things.

A great example of this is the whole Ron and HErmione and the bickering. Many times I have heard many people say that they do this because they like each other and this represents their tension over their attraction etc.

Well yes, many times young teens ( usually younger than 15) will use bickering etc as a way to deal with sexual tension, but mature relationships are not hallmarked by that.

In mature relationships it is the connectivity that appeals. Yes, sometimes opposites will attract, but on some level it is "relating" that becomes important. That is why they are called relationships. Only time and maturity will help those of you who are still fairly young to see that what passes for attraction, crushes etc, at age 14 is not the same for most people at age 24 or 34 or 44.

Like it or not, the teen years are emotional, passionate, impulsive, and sometimes obsessive. Everyone who passes through their teen years at some point will look back and be grateful that

A. they don't have to go through that again
B. they are past some of the silliness

That is not an insult to teens in general, it is just a fact.

But teens are also wonderful and their passion for life, their belief that all things are possible their emotional response to world around them is wonderful if not challenging to behold and it all plays together to create a balance in the world. One of the greatest benefits in being an adult who has children or is around children of any age is that you get to see the world through different perspectives again. Sometimes that fresh view of the world is so helpful.
Some teens object that there are plenty of teenage H/Hr shippers, and they don't ship because of alchemy. Madame Pomfrey replies:

please read my post in response. I totally agree with your assertions about the difference between the way the teens see things and how we do. I tried to put a spin on that that might help the other younger ones understand. Of course a hallmark of teens is often not being willing to understand anything that disagrees with them. But still we try...

I don't want to alienate any of the teens on this site. I have learned much from many of you and often I do get reminded of how I felt when I was the same age. I like the idea that we are of all different ages on here. It makes it interesting. THose of us with more life experience learn from those with less, but who have different perspectives on things.

Those of you with less experience, can learn from those of us with more, without it seeming like a lecture from your mothers, etc. Sorry about the above entry. I got interrupted and then when I got back it got posted before I was really done with it and It didn't really end up as I had intended.
angelsslave:
In my job i deal more intensively with teens that everyone else so trust me i do know how a teen mind works we are no different - just a bit more experience in getting our hearts broken
madame pomfrey:
I have worked with teens extensively as well, in mental health settings, eating disorder clinics, group, individual and family therapy. I loved it.

I actually think my fave age to work with has been from about 13-20
H/Hr. It's what your parents ship!



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[info]emiweebee
2006-06-12 01:38 am UTC (link)
She says it's not about Ron, it's about Harry, Harry's the main character, not his friends, then says Harry and Hermione are the main characters?

And it's not about romance, it's about the alchemical proof of the romance?

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[info]demonbean
2006-06-12 01:45 am UTC (link)
J.K. Rowling is writing this seris of books. She is responsible for creating a plot, background details, and ... oh, yes ... characters. Yes, that's right, she writes characters. Characters whose traits and relative compatabilities she determines. It's not as if J.K.R. stumbled upon this set of characters, and now must be told who to set up with whom. It's her book.

...am I crazy, or is that a valid point?

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[info]evilsqueakers
2006-06-12 01:48 am UTC (link)
Condescending little shits, aren't they? Good lord. That's like saying, "As a teen, your point of views are completely valueless. Don't worry, though. When you get older with more 'life experience' your entire thoughts will be validated." Bitch, please.

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[info]willywanka
2006-06-12 01:49 am UTC (link)
It's not about Harmony either, it's not about the romantics of the story it is about THE PORN.

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[info]rowsdower
2006-06-12 02:17 am UTC (link)
H/Hr. It's what your parents ship!

Ahh, it's funny because it's true. Of course, my mom has only seen the movies (and fell asleep a few times during the first two), so she just assumed it would be H/Hr because of "that cliche where the hero gets the girl next door". She actually became more interested in the series when she was informed H/Hr wasn't going to happen. Even more amusing is what happened a few minutes after that matter was cleared up, when my brother bashed Hermione (he despises her), and mom defended her with, and I quote, "Well, she can't be all bad. After all, she likes Ron!"

Moms, go figure.

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[info]antimatterspork
2006-06-12 02:27 am UTC (link)

Well yes, many times young teens ( usually younger than 15) will use bickering etc as a way to deal with sexual tension, but mature relationships are not hallmarked by that.

In mature relationships it is the connectivity that appeals. Yes, sometimes opposites will attract, but on some level it is "relating" that becomes important. That is why they are called relationships. Only time and maturity will help those of you who are still fairly young to see that what passes for attraction, crushes etc, at age 14 is not the same for most people at age 24 or 34 or 44.

How old are the Trio again?

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[info]gal_montag
2006-06-12 02:33 am UTC (link)
Oh, so that's why Harmonians have so many half baked ideas about relationships. Because they're adults. It certainly explains the 50% divorce rate, anyway.

Well yes, many times young teens ( usually younger than 15) will use bickering etc as a way to deal with sexual tension, but mature relationships are not hallmarked by that.

Well, it's a good thing Ron and Hermione are teenagers, then, isn't it tardo?

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[info]hinoema
2006-06-12 02:43 am UTC (link)
I wrote this one off as a faker the second they spelled psychiatrist as 'psycharitrist' and insisted that it was the same thing as 'psychologist'.

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[info]miss_eponine
2006-06-12 02:55 am UTC (link)
Oh good Lord.

Hello, I'd like to introduce myself. I am an adult. I am in a loving long-term, committed relationship (we had the ceremony and everything), and I ship H/G and R/Hr. However, my marriage does not resemble either one of these pairings, nor does it resemble H/Hr in the slightest. One of my favorite pairings of all time (Elizabeth/Darcy) does not hold any similarities to my marriage, neither does my newest OTP (Peter Wimsey/Harriet Vane) because it is possible to like a pairing without having to hold your own life to its standards. Not only that, but it is also possible to see a pairing in literature, film or other medium without wanting to experience a relationship exactly like it. I think Han and Leia are adorable, but I don't bicker with my husband the way they do.

To say that anyone who ships R/Hr or H/G can't see/have a real relationship is insulting, condescending and just plain ignorant. To say that teenagers have no idea what it takes for a successful relationship smacks of arrogance and prejudice of the worst kind.

Every relationship is different. What works for some is the death knell for others, and to claim that preference of a pairing in a series of books gives any sort of indication whatsoever as to the success of a relationship is only proclaiming yourself as an idiot of the worst kind. It's like saying people who like the color red can't possibly have successful relationships.


Would someone hand me a towel?

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[info]gowdie
2006-06-12 03:36 am UTC (link)
Those of you with less experience, can learn from those of us with more, without it seeming like a lecture from your mothers, etc.

Yeah, who needs a lecture from your mom, when you can be lectured to by raging assholes instead?

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[info]tehrin
2006-06-12 03:42 am UTC (link)
This has been said over and over, but I'll say it again. Its ironic that this POV is being shared by adults who ship out of a children's book. Heck, if shipping canon makes me a teenager again, I'm going to market it as the new fountian of youth.

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[info]hoopa
2006-06-12 03:45 am UTC (link)
All this in-depth knowledge of literacy analysis and yet they still don't understand resistant reading...

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[info]drhenryjekyll
2006-06-12 03:59 am UTC (link)
Damn. I ship H/Hr/R! What does that make me??

(Besides a pervert.)

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sharonapple
2006-06-12 04:19 am UTC (link)
...

My God, and they let this woman practice?

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[info]slackerbitch
2006-06-12 04:37 am UTC (link)
She's a grown woman spouting off about maturity and her doctorate degrees, and she uses the screenname Angelsslave!?

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[info]seraphtrevs
2006-06-12 05:17 am UTC (link)
It's not about Ron why can't you all see that? - why does all your thoughts centre around Ron? my last recollection was the Hero was called Harry not Ron and its about his journey not his friends?

I KNOW - THAT'S WHY IT'S ALSO *NOT* ALL ABOUT HERMIONE OMG!!11!

...sorry for making everyone's ears bleed, but it needed to be screamed said.

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[info]squeakthemouse
2006-06-12 05:26 am UTC (link)
I swear, attributing certain opinions to age has got to be like, the fallback insult of grownup fangirls. I've seen that happen in another fandom, and it was equally bzuh?-inducing.

When are these people going to get that shipping fictional characters =/= real life? Last time I checked, I shipped certain pairings b/c I liked their chemistry, or I liked how the characters played off each other, or they were just very pretty. It has nothing to do with my model of an ideal relationship, and considering I ship Spuffy, that idea scares the living crap out of me.

Ugh, their word vomit makes my head go splodey. *shuffles off to watch Doctor Who*

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[info]reddiej
2006-06-12 05:45 am UTC (link)
Actually, my mum did think that Hermione would hook up with Harry, but she had only seen the first two movies at the time and just blindly assumed the hero got the girl. I just gave her a dirty look.

Then again, she was sleeping through both movies....

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[info]luckdragonfujur
2006-06-12 05:47 am UTC (link)
What's with the alchemy? O_o

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[info]sproutling
2006-06-12 08:46 am UTC (link)
So the fact that I like the canon pairings but ostensibly don't ship would be the reason why I'm single? Like, nothing to do with my mildly sociopathic and somewhat off-putting personality? My teenage years are a distant memory and even I'm feeling condescended to.

oh and:
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Different strokes for different folks
[info]dez_chan
2006-06-12 11:24 am UTC (link)
Making a statement like, "Only teenagers ship R/Hr" is at least as lame and untrue as saying, "only teenagers read het," or "only teenagers watch soap operas," or "only teenagers eat Cheetoes." Lots of people of lots of ages do all of these things for better or worse. Saying otherwise is just well...stupid and shortsided. In short, par for the course for Harmonians.

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[info]pinkranger
2006-06-12 12:30 pm UTC (link)
The two girls I babysat a few years ago (ages 7 and 9) thought Hermione and Harry were going to get together. I did too, but then again, I had only read half of a chapter from Goblet of Fire for them as a bed time story and I was under the impression that Malfoy was their friend (albeit a very moody and condesending friend). I also thought Ginny was Ron's girlfriend. Don't Judge!

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[info]sandyclaws68
2006-06-12 12:33 pm UTC (link)
*checks birth certificate to confirm age*

I'm a 38 year old woman who ships OBHWF. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?!?!?! Clearly, I need therapy to come to terms with my latent immaturity and other leftover issues from my teenage years.

When in doubt, I blame my mother.

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[info]splorch
2006-06-12 02:21 pm UTC (link)
My daughter is 7, has just started reading PoA, and developed a crush on Harry over the course of the first two books. Is it wrong to ask her what her shipping preferences are? (Or to indoctrinate her on how hot Alan Rickman is?) Or will that make me one of the batshit insane, causing me to run amok and lecture the younger folk on the perils of the wrong ship oh em gee?

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