Knotty wanka!
So, due to my wedding in three years, I joined "The Knot". It's a great website and my fiance and I have gotten a lot of good advice about weddings and budgeting and how not to kill each other on the big day.

We wanted a Browncoat wedding, to embrace our love of Firefly, my family's Asian influences (Granddaddy worked in the Foreign Service) and our love of weird tech. Now, I'm thinking, "I'm Captain of my own Firefly-class! I am only a pretty, pretty princess on the outside!" So, I wanted to try a bit of spiff I found in a book on handfastings: a mock duel.

Here's my post to "The Knot" forums.

My fiance and I are a couple of nerds. He's Wiccan, I'm Oddball Christian, so I picked up a book on handfastings that had tips on Interfaith marriages. While flipping through, I came across the concept of mock abductions and duels. Seeing as our wedding is as much a theatrical production as it is a ceremony of commitment, I was thinking of having a mock duel between the bridal party and the groom's party, in disguise as the villains of our favorite TV series. There will be a warning in the programs and we certainly won't use live steel (no firearms, but that goes without saying). Yet, a few problems have cropped up.

1) My dress will most likely have a hoopskirt/crinoline. I can work around the corset.
2) Fight Choreography could get tricky.
3) Where do we hide the weapons?

Any ideas? Or should I save the duel for the reception and wear a pant suit?

At first, I get a intrigued response. But then, this shows up.

Skip it.

This is a wedding, not some kind of funky theatrical production. It's also a lot of work.

I disagree, having been involved in my mother's Sci-Fi convention wedding and my best friend's perfectly mundane nuptuals. Others point out that "It's her wedding, she should do as she pleases". Others insist it's crazy and in poor taste.

I respond:

I think that, while my family might be surprised, they understand that my fiance and I are oddballs with our own interests. This is symbolic of the fact that neither of us is going to be submitting to anyone but will compromise and be partners and equals, rather than macho man and damsel in distress.

Does this sound more acceptable: the groom comes in, masked and disguised as a bad guy from the show (blue gloves and all, for those who get the reference. I process in like a good girl, but--hey!--who's this schmuck at the altar? I demand to know who he is and where's my boy, three times for symbolic sake. Finally, he removes his gloves and mask, and puts on his Browncoat and the ceremony proceeds as planned.

Is that better?

The next response?

No.

Admittedly this might not be wank. If it doesn't belong, delete it by all means.

Here's a link to the whole dog-and-pony show.
http://talk.theknot.com/boards/main_frame.aspx?page=ShowForum.aspx?ForumID=10

EDIT: Hi! WOW. Thanks for all the input. I was honestly expecting more "LOLZ Stupid Wanka!".

To those who think I'm looking for validation: I apologize. If I had been seeking validation, I wouldn't have come here. I came here to laugh at myself for going to a fairly mainstream place with my fandom schtick and to share the joke. Thanks for laughing. You were laughing, right? Would a pie to my face have helped at all?

To those with advice: Thank you. I'm taking copious notes. The reason I'm waiting three years is a) after a six-year engagement, starting my senior year, three more won't kill us and b) it gives us time to save up, plan and do this right.

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rikiki
2007-12-27 05:43 pm UTC (link)

Wank aside, I think either one sounds awesome. If you can work out the logistics of the duel, that would be something people would remember forever, and you'd have an interesting wedding story for any kids you may have or any nieces/nephews you may spoil rotten.

You could combine the two, too. :D Have the duel start because he refuses to reveal who he is at first.

And screw those who say you shouldn't do it. It's y'all's party, have a mock duel if you want to. :D Boobies for you for having such an awesome idea.

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	queencallipygos 2007-12-27 05:48 pm UTC (link)
	It is your wedding, and you can do whatever the hell you want. You'll get spoilsports like that posting in a public forum, but this is the way of the world. (Reply to this)(Thread)