No horses were harmed in this rape wank
Over at Pandagon, Amanda Marcotte makes a post on third-wave feminism. In it, she quotes a Dan Savage advice column where a woman engaged in some light bondage was anally raped by her boyfriend. The commenters are generally horrified.

Except for Phoenician in a time of Romans. He makes the mistake of not reading the entire column and jumps in with Safewords, anyone? Other people point out that this was not a safeword situation and suggest that Phoenician gets off on rape.

And it's all wank from there.
Bondage = BDSM
I know this because I have a friend who teaches seminars.
We're not hearing the full story.
He's not a rapist because he threated to kill himself.

Phoenician gets tired and goes away for a bit, but not to worry! JDCasteleiro jumps in to defend Phoenician's honor.
If she'd had a safeword, she might not have been raped.
Accusing me of blaming the victim means you want women to get raped.
Y'all are just a hive ~~vagina~~ mind that hates body piercings.

And that's only half of the thread.

That's wanky enough, but Jesurgislac takes it upon him(?)self to jump on Phoenician in unrelated posts to remind everyone what a nasty rape apologist Phoenician is. Phoenician calls Jesurgislac Pinocchio as a comeback , and everyone else whistles and pretends they aren't there.

Edit: And on a completely different blog (but on the same topic), JDCasteleiro declares he's leaving because no one understands him/everyone is picking on him. Except he doesn't. And his girlfriend shows up.

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ravenclaw_devi
2007-01-10 04:05 am UTC (link)

Generally rapists don’t get suicidally depressed about the victim not wanting to see them.

Doesn't know much about the psychology of abusive relationships, does he?

And on the main subject... you don't need a safeword to know to not anally fuck your girlfriend if she told you beforehand that she won't do anal, ever. (Because even and especially in BDSM, there is this thing called "hard limits", you know?) Nor do you need a safeword to know to stop when said girlfriend starts bleeding profusely. That is, if you aren't a jackass rapist.

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	dragonfangirl 2007-01-10 11:12 am UTC (link)
	Generally rapists don’t get suicidally depressed about the victim not wanting to see them. Why not? Rapists are human, too. Depressingly. (Reply to this)(Parent)

	napalmnacey 2007-01-10 03:40 pm UTC (link)
	The rapist of a woman I know was terribly sorry about it afterwards. He asked for her forgiveness and she gave it to him, not for him, but to close the whole affair and to help herself move on in her life (cause you can't live with that sort of anger, you know?). Anyway - yeah. That person - knows nothing of the rape thing. (Reply to this)(Parent)

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