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dez_chan
2007-05-08 10:26 pm UTC (link)

*headdesk X infinity*

See, on one hand, the girl has a point, and I've given more or less that same advice to many many friends of both genders. OTOH, she is a wanksplosion with a keyboard, and should've given up arguing by about the second reply, when it was plain he wasn't going to get it or agree with her or whatever she was going for.

On...let's say a third hand that I borrowed, the guy has a point, inflexible "rules" rarely work. But on the forth hand that is stirring my coffee, he's a giant asswanker as well, and reminds me of a lot of people that I know that make me want to slap them for being so neurotic and timid. But that would require a fifth hand for slapping, and that's just silly. And almost none of that has to do with the OP on stupid_free about stealing from your granny to buy coke.

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queencallipygos
2007-05-09 04:03 pm UTC (link)

Exactly.

I think what she's missing is that "if he liked you, he'd ask you out" is an IDEAL situation, and is only a GENERAL statement, but such general statements, ideal situations, and rules have EXCEPTIONS.

I actually did flip through "he's just not that into you," and as wack-beasty as it was, there was a good core kernel of "women, just learn not to take any bullshit from guys, because you seriously don't deserve that shit," and that is itself a good message.

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dez_chan
2007-05-09 05:11 pm UTC (link)

Precisely! Now I'm not going to defend the book as a whole, but I have met a good many people who needed to be told that they need to stop analyzing every single thing someone does for meaning. So many people talk themselves into and out of faux relationships that way and pass up other, better opportunities.

But yeah, there're lots better books that make that point in a better way. And really, I can't trust anyone who worked on Sex and the City for healthy relationship advice.

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