Quit having kids, you're wasting my money!
A post is made to

bad_service in which a mother with WIC vouchers and several kids was insulted to her face and behind her back by a clerk. While most people seem to agree that this is bad service, about half the commentors are also quick to tell the OP that she's brought it all on herself and to either quit whining or quit popping out babies she can't afford. 123 comments of "My thoughts on having kids" and growing.

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iwanttobeasleep
2007-06-10 08:56 am UTC (link)

On one hand, you have a good point, a few big families mean nothing in the long run. On the other hand, wanting a big family isn't a defense for having a big family when you can't afford to feed them. And while we're at it, on one hand it's definitely the state's responsibility to make sure all children have food, clothing, and a place to live, but it's also the parent's responsibility not to create more children when they can't or can barely afford the ones they've got now. It's not just about the mother having a right to have a family as large as she wants, it's also about the children's right not to suffer unnecessarily because the mother wanted to have a large family even if she couldn't properly support all of them.

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velvet_mace
2007-06-10 03:33 pm UTC (link)

Well, lets put it this way. Do you believe that we as a society should force a woman to have an abortion? Force her to give up her religious beliefs? Force her to give up her children if she isn't abusing them? Because honestly, that's the alternative. Giving up sex entirely is a harsh thing to sentence a woman to as well, especially if she's married.

It's really easy to say "then she shouldn't have these children." But in order for her to not have these children, that means somehow or other you will have to take her right to have children away from her.

I support easy and cheap access to contraceptives (which, surprise, we don't have), and heavily subsidized childcare to help women with children get back to work and off of welfare. I think that's a much more supportive than simply tut tuting and telling these women to stop having sex.

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