Gah. I had an ectopic and suffered no mental or emotional anguish because of the actual miscarriage*. Stuff like that happens, and I know it's not a failing or something I did wrong.

That being said, she pissed me the fuck off. I kinda want to go dig up my old left decaying fallopian tube and chuck it at her head just to gross her out. (I went on to have two kids- go rightie!) I don't mind standing up to say, "It's okay not to feel guilty," but there's WORLDS between that idea and "You shouldn't feel anything, what's wrong with you?" What sucks is people like that make it really hard for the first message to be said without being tainted with the brush of, "And so you should agree." And that's not the thing at all- saying "I'm this way" does not equate to "You should be too!" it just means "You're not alone in that."

Argh- I feel so bad for the childfree and zero-pop people I know. They must go through the same, kinda stuff when these ceefer brats come up.

(*though the scary night in the hospital where no one explained what was going on to me meant "The Hand That Rocks The Cradle" gave the screaming meemies later.)