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childfree, defensiveness ahoy, flounce, sexism, still not funny, think of the children, unfunny_business, urge to kill rising, why otf_wank is depressing

Childfree Wank
Poor cf_ioan is having a bad day. Over at the Childfreez, she posts about how an "idiot moo cunt" she is acquainted with "fortunately...miscarried". She does not receive acclaim for this viewpoint.

Other posters express surprise at the vehemence of her viewpoint: " You don't need to bow down to the pity party. Just mind your business. Who cares if she is a moo bitch? She is experiencing a TRAUMA, and it's sad for HER."-Fishmama

She responds (as MerlynHerne): This bitch works for wal-mart--most people who work there are white trash. Glad you have time to carry on over this hillbilly. Just more breeder mooing and lowing. Maybe her fellow idiots can pray to Jay-sus! In my book white trash breeders and their melodramas don't rate ooing and lowing.

This, surprisingly, does not endear the OP to her fellow board members.

WeaverSong: "Showing compassion to someone who's experienced a loss it not breeder pleasing. It's being human."

Of course, this attitude is only because they're all women: " Fuck you. Go kiss breeder ass! You all suck. Just what I expected..I notice no men posted on here..mybe they're less ruled by their hormones."

There is a flounce followed by a graceless unflouncing. But only because she needs to tell everyone that she's found better friends to hang with:

" I don't have to. I found a more congenial group of CF'ers. I will also ask [SO] to check out this board. Leave the breeder pleasers to themseles."

So the whole story, bitterness and all, is transferred over to cf_hardcore. Second verse same as the first, a little bit louder and a little bit worse because now, the OP has the drama from the first board to chew over as well:

"Apparently I am inhumane because I don't see how she SUFFERED losing both babies."

Cue the world's smallest violins as cf_hardcore's members sit down to the feast:

sleep_monger replies:
I'm in agreement that she shouldn't have had a child, absolutely. I also can't understand why people build their houses right next to a flood zone. That said, I feel sorry for both a grieving mother and a farmer who's lost his life's work.

z3ncat points out that since the CF community would like to have its choices respect, those who choose to have children should receive the same respect.

While cf_ioan is fending off the common sense and Earth Logic™ of the cf_hardcore crowd, another rabid poster shows up to complain about the lack of respect the childfree in general show parents.

There's a few calls of troll followed by a few users who believe their parents should never have had children. But most of the users seem content to point and laugh without throwing out any fresh meat. This is not the case over at Childfreez where they are still happily tearing cf_ioan apart.

ETA: The banhammer has fallen on cf_ioan. Woe.

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shaysdays
2008-06-27 07:11 am UTC (link)

Gah. I had an ectopic and suffered no mental or emotional anguish because of the actual miscarriage*. Stuff like that happens, and I know it's not a failing or something I did wrong.

That being said, she pissed me the fuck off. I kinda want to go dig up my old left decaying fallopian tube and chuck it at her head just to gross her out. (I went on to have two kids- go rightie!) I don't mind standing up to say, "It's okay not to feel guilty," but there's WORLDS between that idea and "You shouldn't feel anything, what's wrong with you?" What sucks is people like that make it really hard for the first message to be said without being tainted with the brush of, "And so you should agree." And that's not the thing at all- saying "I'm this way" does not equate to "You should be too!" it just means "You're not alone in that."

Argh- I feel so bad for the childfree and zero-pop people I know. They must go through the same, kinda stuff when these ceefer brats come up.

(*though the scary night in the hospital where no one explained what was going on to me meant "The Hand That Rocks The Cradle" gave the screaming meemies later.)

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	kosaginolegion 2008-06-27 02:22 pm UTC (link)
	Yeah, I hear you. I have childfree friends who I seriously respect for the decision to not have children. I always feel sorry for them when something like this comes up - though admittedly they don't get the backlash nearly as badly as some probably do. (Reply to this)(Parent)

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