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julesnoctambule
2009-01-22 04:24 am UTC (link)

My husband and I had a wedding with a ceremony and a reception and pictures and cake and everything, yet it wasn't some dramafest freakout because we aren't that kind of people. I don't buy into the ~*~OMGSPESHULESTDAYEV4R!!!!!~*~ crap, nor am I batshit crazy and self-obsessed. The bridesmaids' dresses didn't match, the flowers were silk (and I got them on clearance!), my sister was drunk and shouted 'I'm Rick James, bitch!' during the reception and everyone had a good time. It was just a big party with everyone in nicer-than-usual clothes.

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	eilisliana 2009-01-22 04:32 am UTC (link)
	I was young for my elder sisters' weddings but considering their receptions (and Sis #2's ceremony) were at the local VFW/bingo hall... they weren't dramarama-fests and everyone had a good time from a 7/9 year old's perspective. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

julesnoctambule
2009-01-22 04:40 am UTC (link)

Some people seem to think that non-elopement/non-courthouse wedding = huge ego party, and that really isn't the case. I'm sure there are people out there who could turn even the simplest of ceremonies into a nightmare!

I haven't been to a lot of weddings, but I still knew exactly what I wanted to avoid. The ceremony and reception were held at an historic home that is part rentable area and part private apartments, and when we stopped by the day after to take some pictures we had a group of little old ladies come up to us, telling us how nice it was that the bridesmaids all had on different dresses and how lovely we all looked. They were so cute!

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	rimrunner 2009-01-22 06:27 am UTC (link)
	This. I didn't have bridesmaids, I had a bridal posse. (Because two of them were men and all four of them own guns, in one case enough guns to arm a small country.) I told them I didn't care what they wore as long as it wouldn't get them arrested. They wore kilts. So did most of the male guests, once the word got out. It was AWESOME. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	julesnoctambule 2009-01-22 05:27 pm UTC (link)
	My husband wanted to wear a kilt in my family's pattern, but my mother informed him that he didn't pass the minimum calf circumference requirement. It was for the best! ;) (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	lirazel 2009-01-26 06:46 pm UTC (link)
	My mother-in-law threatened to hide my husband's kilt before our wedding. ;_; (Reply to this)(Parent)

	napalmnacey 2009-01-22 08:19 am UTC (link)
	See, that's my favourite kind of wedding. My mate Stephie had a really relaxed wedding like that. That's the kind of wedding I'd have (if I can meet a man that I don't want to drop-kick into next week by the three month mark!) (Reply to this)(Parent)

	kookaburra 2009-01-22 10:45 am UTC (link)
	That's awesome. Of all the weddings I've been to, I have always thought that wedding parties with unmatching dresses/nice suits that flattered their wearers' individual bodies looked much better than matching dresses/cumberbunds for all 120 attendants. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

julesnoctambule
2009-01-22 05:26 pm UTC (link)

We had 5' 8 1/2" and busty, 5' 2" and busty, 5' 10" and skinny, and 6' and athletic. There isn't a dress made that suits all that!
One of the dresses I found on clearance at a department store; I'd had my eye on it for myself but the size I found was the petite bridesmaid's. It was silk with Art Nouveau-style embroidery -- and it was eleven dollars marked down from a few hundred. She wore the hell out of that dress for years.

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	yattara 2009-01-22 04:29 pm UTC (link)
	My mum's of the opinion (which I share) "Your wedding is not the most important day of your life. What does that make the days of your marriage?" (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	waitwut 2009-01-22 06:30 pm UTC (link)
	That's what my pastor, who did our pre-marital stuff, said. People talked about my wedding for YEARS on how nice it was. I think it was because I refused to make it OMG MY DAY NOT YOUR's. (Reply to this)(Parent)

	my pastor's advice squeakytoy 2009-01-22 09:00 pm UTC (link)
	After every Wedding Day are Years Of Marriage. Prepare for the marriage, not the wedding. (Reply to this)(Parent)

	maev_connacht 2009-01-22 04:55 pm UTC (link)
	Sounds like pretty much exactly what I did, except instead of the Rick James thing, my sister just did a stunning Rock Band rendition of Iron Maiden's "Run to the Hills". It was awesome. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	julesnoctambule 2009-01-22 05:20 pm UTC (link)
	We couldn't have dancing because of the historic designation of the building, much to my sister's dismay. She wanted a bagpiper so she could reenact the wedding scene from 'So I Married an Axe Murderer' -- and I'd have let her, too! (Reply to this)(Parent)

mary_mac
2009-01-22 06:12 pm UTC (link)

Such things are awesome.

This is why if I ever get married I am going the road of my cousin, who had a civil ceremony in London and a Giant Irish-Mexican Party in their friend's bar after, and the proper church ceremony and another Giant Irish-Mexican Party in Mexico. The only drama involved was the transport of the cake from his mother's house to the bar, due to Victoria train station, and at the Mexican one her granny lost her shoes at the reception and nobody found them to the next day.

Also I got lost between Angel Tube station and the bar (100 yards away), but, um, that provided free entertainment for everyone else?

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	tree 2009-01-22 06:38 pm UTC (link)
	Me. Him. Our parents as witnesses. The whole thing lasted all of ten minutes. Best wedding ever. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	tree 2009-01-22 06:41 pm UTC (link)
	And, rereading my comment and seeing how brevity might not always be the best way of describing things, I don't mean to diss your thing; just wanted to join the fest of "did it our way, not by a Book of Lists". \o/ (Reply to this)(Parent)

	also_not_a_pipe 2009-01-22 09:18 pm UTC (link)
	I keep telling everyone that if I get married, it's going to be jeans in the back yard. Mostly because I will have spent all my money on moving to Canada or Massachusetts, but also just because I can't be bothered with the OMG I'S A BRIDE I MIGHT AS WELL DIE ON THE WAY HOME FROM THE HONEYMOON BECAUSE THIS IS THE PINNACLE OF MY ENTIRE LIFE! shit. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	julesnoctambule 2009-01-22 09:23 pm UTC (link)
	I liked having a larger wedding; it was the first time that many family members had been together for anything other than a funeral in over a decade. An elderly great-aunt died later that year, and our wedding had been the last chance for her to see so many of her relations and for them to see her. (Reply to this)(Parent)

	witty 2009-01-23 05:49 am UTC (link)
	I called my sister up before her wedding and was like, "Do you have any opinion on what I wear as your bridesmaid?" and she said no. I bought a nice dress I liked, wore it on the day, have altered it five times over the years (sizing, and to bring it up to cocktail length), and wear it still. Because my sister is sane. (Even if my mother sometimes isn't.) (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	julesnoctambule 2009-01-23 06:08 am UTC (link)
	My sister (the maid-of-honour) bought her dress at a street market that morning and borrowed a pair of my shoes. She looked lovely and still uses the dress! I think it was maybe $20, if that. (Reply to this)(Parent)

	bubosquared 2009-01-23 10:51 am UTC (link)
	my sister was drunk and shouted 'I'm Rick James, bitch!' during the reception Is your sister for rent for weddings, by any chance? Because if and when I ever get married, I may want to hire her. :D (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	julesnoctambule 2009-01-23 04:49 pm UTC (link)
	Given that she has NYC rent to pay, she just might be! ;) (Reply to this)(Parent)

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