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The Mad Bishounen ([info]jkefka) wrote in [info]otf_wank,
@ 2009-07-23 19:45:00


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I changed the rules but I'm not going to tell you which, and stop being so passive-aggressive!
Since F_W seems to be suffering from an abundance of fail and grudgewank, it falls to dear old [info]otf_wank to keep us amused and away from the unfunny! Today we bring you...a polyamory wank!

...

Yeah that would be a terrible idea. Really it's a fantastic piece of mod-wank taking place in the lj polyamory community. Edit: This wank courtesy of the mouse brigade in [info]wank_report


So [info]00goddess is the mod of the polyamory community. She makes a post letting people know she changed the rules of the comm. However, she doesn't say what change she's made, or link to them. And no, I have no idea what the "ongoing problem" is, or the rule s/he changed.

Don't you just love it when things kick off in the first thread? Basically, people ask for a direct link. Now, let me just quote comments #3 and 4 from this thread, and I think we have everything we need to know:

triadruid: "It seems perfectly reasonable to ask what's new, but if you wish to make it a guessing game..."

00goddess: "I don't wish to make it a guessing game. What I want is for people to read the whole damn thing attentively.

Passive-aggressive comments? Just annoy me."

AND WE'RE OFF.

In her personal journal, 00goddess confides to the masses that she's been contemplating deleting the comm. This thread...I don't even know what the fuck is going on here. Suffice it to say that both parties miss each others' points by miles and then there's butthurt for everyone!

Then it goes back to the community, with this post. I don't think I even need to tell you to scroll down for a good time.

I'm capping a bit but I don't have time to grab all the comments before work. I heartily encourage any wankas with time on their hands to archive this for posterity, however!


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[info]cat_mcdougall
2009-07-23 02:46 pm UTC (link)
Is it wrong that I only visit polyamory to make sure I'm writing my polygamous relationships (in fiction) believably?

Other than that: I'm seeing a lot of passive-aggression from the mod.

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[info]kylenne
2009-07-23 04:49 pm UTC (link)
Don't feel bad. I only visit to point and laugh, and I'm actually poly.

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(no subject) - [info]cassildra, 2009-07-23 04:51 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]persona, 2009-07-23 05:01 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]sistercoyote, 2009-07-23 07:34 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]lizrocks, 2009-07-23 08:01 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]kylenne, 2009-07-23 08:53 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]wankaholic, 2009-07-24 03:12 am UTC

[info]blue_penguin
2009-07-23 06:39 pm UTC (link)
I'm not sure that's a good idea — I mean, it seems as though, if one were taking hints from that community, one would end up writing all of one's polygamous characters as gigantic wankers.

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(no subject) - [info]cat_mcdougall, 2009-07-23 06:41 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]blue_penguin, 2009-07-23 07:14 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]anarchicq, 2009-08-01 09:20 am UTC

[info]fools_game
2009-07-23 02:48 pm UTC (link)
... I did not know about the "click on the little icon thingy to get to the userinfo."

Good thing I'm not poly; evidently I'm too stupid to handle it.

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[info]starlady42
2009-07-23 04:15 pm UTC (link)
I remember when synecdochic was working on the initial Dreamwidth code, she did a "did you know about this feature" poll on that, and I clicked whatever the "OMG I HAVE BEEN ON LJ FOR LIKE A BILLION YEARS AND NEVER KNEW THAT" option was. Seriously, unless you did it by accident, how would you even know?

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(no subject) - [info]shinga, 2009-07-23 05:28 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]frequentmouse, 2009-07-24 02:47 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]lied_ohne_worte, 2009-07-24 09:43 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]mcity, 2009-07-24 05:11 am UTC

[info]rosehiptea
2009-07-23 05:23 pm UTC (link)
I didn't know that either. Well, don't I feel dumb.

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[info]platedlizard
2009-07-23 05:49 pm UTC (link)
Holy crap, I didn't know that.

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(no subject) - [info]platedlizard, 2009-07-24 06:15 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]risha, 2009-07-23 06:23 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]_goblin_, 2009-07-23 08:58 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]varethane, 2009-07-23 11:04 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]rodo, 2009-07-23 11:45 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]eleutheria, 2009-07-24 02:12 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]mcity, 2009-07-24 05:10 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]kookaburra, 2009-07-24 05:16 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]greenling, 2009-07-24 05:26 am UTC

[info]wrongly_amused
2009-07-23 03:19 pm UTC (link)
Man, [info]amokk is something special. I haven't seen that much ass kissed outside of Internet porno.

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(no subject) - [info]amokk, 2009-07-23 06:45 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]cmdr_zoom, 2009-07-23 07:05 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]tofuknight, 2009-07-23 07:10 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]amokk, 2009-07-23 07:16 pm UTC

[info]jfpbookworm
2009-07-23 03:27 pm UTC (link)
Eh, there are things I don't like about the comm, but 00goddess seems to regularly bring the wank, what with the power-tripping and not seeming to actually *like* the comm she moderates.

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(no subject) - ariadne484, 2009-07-24 04:51 am UTC

[info]thoms
2009-07-23 03:31 pm UTC (link)
Everytime someone says anything about "hostility" or along those lines, I hear it in the voice of C.J. Cregg from "The West Wing" following her root canal.

It's infinitely funnier that way!

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(no subject) - [info]b_jellybean, 2009-07-23 03:45 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]thoms, 2009-07-23 03:53 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]b_jellybean, 2009-07-23 04:54 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]thoms, 2009-07-23 05:01 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]b_jellybean, 2009-07-23 05:49 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]b_jellybean, 2009-07-23 05:54 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]thoms, 2009-07-23 06:00 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]bitca, 2009-07-24 07:12 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]b_jellybean, 2009-07-24 08:53 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]waitwut, 2009-07-23 04:54 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]thoms, 2009-07-23 05:07 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]singe, 2009-07-23 06:35 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]kumquat_of_doom, 2009-07-29 02:49 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]singe, 2009-07-29 05:36 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]kumquat_of_doom, 2009-07-29 09:22 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]singe, 2009-07-29 10:22 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]varethane, 2009-07-23 08:04 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]erinny, 2009-07-23 10:24 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]thoms, 2009-07-23 11:17 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]lied_ohne_worte, 2009-07-24 09:51 am UTC
You didn't read my post! You didn't read my post!
tetradecimal
2009-07-23 03:43 pm UTC (link)
...I'm not going to explain what I really meant, but you clearly didn't read it zomg!

So, taking into account how poorly 00goddess reacted to someone offering to take over modding duties instead of potentially pouring gasoline over the comm, what exactly was she hoping for? Members groveling in obeisance? Sparkles and rainbows and world peace?

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Re: You didn't read my post! You didn't read my post! - [info]starlady42, 2009-07-23 04:16 pm UTC
Re: You didn't read my post! You didn't read my post! - tetradecimal, 2009-07-23 04:35 pm UTC
Re: You didn't read my post! You didn't read my post! - [info]puipui, 2009-07-23 04:17 pm UTC
Re: You didn't read my post! You didn't read my post! - [info]missdaisy, 2009-07-23 06:36 pm UTC
Re: You didn't read my post! You didn't read my post! - [info]deadwood, 2009-07-23 04:18 pm UTC
Re: You didn't read my post! You didn't read my post! - [info]eleutheria, 2009-07-24 02:15 am UTC
Re: You didn't read my post! You didn't read my post! - [info]deliciouschaos, 2009-07-23 08:56 pm UTC
Re: You didn't read my post! You didn't read my post! - [info]mooncalf, 2009-07-24 08:59 am UTC
Re: You didn't read my post! You didn't read my post! - [info]tofuknight, 2009-07-26 04:42 pm UTC

[info]risha
2009-07-23 04:29 pm UTC (link)
Wow, I kind of... really hate 00goddess now. Someone should go to her house, ring the bell, and bitchslap her when she answers. It's the only way some people can learn.

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(no subject) - [info]_goblin_, 2009-07-23 09:05 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]risha, 2009-07-23 09:15 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]_goblin_, 2009-07-23 09:16 pm UTC

[info]kylenne
2009-07-23 04:41 pm UTC (link)
00goddess wanking? In my polyamory community?

My illusions are shattered. Someone please tell me Kings didn't get canceled too?

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(no subject) - [info]lysana, 2009-07-24 12:11 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]kylenne, 2009-07-24 01:10 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]mcity, 2009-07-24 05:12 am UTC

[info]jfpbookworm
2009-07-23 05:38 pm UTC (link)
I don't wish to make it a guessing game. What I want is for people to read the whole damn thing attentively.

Sorry, you fail at mod.

Maybe 00goddess wants everyone to hang on every precious word of her oh-so-wonderful rules, but the point of announcing changes is to (a) avoid wasting everyone's time rereading rules, 99% of which they already knew/were expected to know, and (b) to make it clear that you're acting in good faith and not using pages of benign rules to mask something objectionable.

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(no subject) - [info]eleutheria, 2009-07-24 02:34 am UTC

[info]platedlizard
2009-07-23 06:11 pm UTC (link)
00goddess is being an asshat here, isn't she? "I'm going to point out that I changed the rules, but I'm not going to say what the change is or provide a direct hyperlink to said rules despite numerous people asking me politely."

Passive-aggressive much?

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(no subject) - [info]_goblin_, 2009-07-23 08:53 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]platedlizard, 2009-07-24 06:21 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]fools_game, 2009-07-24 05:56 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]platedlizard, 2009-07-24 06:12 am UTC

[info]ecchaniz0r
2009-07-23 06:23 pm UTC (link)
00goddess could write a handbook on How 2 Passive Aggressive. jesus christ. I thought I knew a lot of narcissistic wannaBNFs in need of perpetual ego-stroking and prone to backhanded idiocy in various anime fandoms.

THEY ALL HAVE NOTHING ON THIS WOMAN.

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(no subject) - [info]evilsqueakers, 2009-07-24 01:01 am UTC
Blatantly Off Topic - [info]librarianmouse, 2009-07-29 06:48 am UTC
Re: Blatantly Off Topic - [info]evilsqueakers, 2009-07-29 06:55 am UTC
Re: Blatantly Off Topic - [info]librarianmouse, 2009-07-29 07:23 am UTC
Re: Blatantly Off Topic - [info]evilsqueakers, 2009-07-29 07:31 am UTC
holy shit
[info]tofuknight
2009-07-23 06:33 pm UTC (link)
Whoa there, 00goddess. I mean, technically, since she's the mod, she can shut it down, but she could also just ban the fuck out of everyone she doesn't like (I'm not actually sure why she didn't take that option, given her usual batshittery). But the whole passive-aggressive thing in the mod-post? Even more on the whining on her own journal? Slow down there, 00. You'll set something on fire.

Hmm. Y'know, I've been reading this community since...I don't know, 2000 or so, and *I* didn't know about that link. Since it is your contention that I am not qualified to participate in this community, I shall remove myself forthwith, with prejudice aforethought.

Also, this was one of my favorite parts of the community comments. :D

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Re: holy shit - [info]sneer, 2009-07-23 10:38 pm UTC

[info]amokk
2009-07-23 06:50 pm UTC (link)
This was unexpected. And totally amusing. +1

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(no subject) - [info]_goblin_, 2009-07-23 08:39 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]amokk, 2009-07-23 08:45 pm UTC
(no subject) - [info]jkefka, 2009-07-23 09:39 pm UTC

[info]xero_sky
2009-07-23 10:00 pm UTC (link)
Suffice it to say that both parties miss each others' points by miles

No kidding. 00goddess generally seems to be in slightly different universe than most of the people she's responding to.

Her universe seems to suck.

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(no subject) - [info]_goblin_, 2009-07-23 10:54 pm UTC

[info]senor_pinata
2009-07-23 11:37 pm UTC (link)
I think it's pretty silly of people not to even consider looking at the comm profile page, since that's where rules are usually found, but no one's coming away from this covered in glory.

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(no subject) - [info]evilsqueakers, 2009-07-24 04:00 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]senor_pinata, 2009-07-24 04:01 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]evilsqueakers, 2009-07-24 04:03 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]senor_pinata, 2009-07-24 04:05 am UTC
(no subject) - [info]evilsqueakers, 2009-07-24 04:19 am UTC

[info]eleutheria
2009-07-24 02:20 am UTC (link)
You are either fundamentally dishonest or mentally ill.

Yup, that's the 00goddess LJ pagandom and poly-dom has known and loathed for years and years now. She was such a regular wanker in the Pagan comms for a while that you could practically set your clock by her, then she kinda pulled back and just did the poly stuff because, IIRC, LJ Pagans were "too stupid" for her elitist self. I especially love how anyone who disagrees with her is grudgey-- well shit, you run around LJ burning bridges with everyone you engage with, people start disliking you. Imagine that!

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[info]honorh
2009-07-24 03:21 am UTC (link)
You know, I'd have thought it would have been easiest to announce which rules have been changed/deleted/added in the post itself, so as to spare people from having to root through the community guidelines to figure it out, but what do I know? I'm not poly. I just like my Nine/Rose/Jack OT3.

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(no subject) - [info]_goblin_, 2009-07-24 04:09 am UTC

[info]mcity
2009-07-24 05:05 am UTC (link)
"However, she doesn't say what change she's made, or link to them. And no, I have no idea what the "ongoing problem" is, or the rule s/he changed."

Is this like that game where you can tell someone's mad at you, and you ask them "what?", and they say "you know what" and leave?

Because I hate that game.

*scrolls down*

Son of a gun.

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[info]miraba
2009-07-25 07:10 am UTC (link)
And now people are being banned for questioning The Mighty Mod's authority/judgment/sanity.

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(no subject) - [info]tofuknight, 2009-07-26 04:46 pm UTC

[info]catremistrae
2009-07-27 01:37 am UTC (link)
It was burdensome to me because I resent it when people refuse to take personal responsibility and want instead for me to do it for them. There is a baseline level of intelligence/responsibility required to participate here; telling me that I ought to add a link when one is already there is ridiculous.

Personal responsibility?

I'm kind of curious about what type of job 00goddess has. I hope it's not customer service. "Brew your own coffee, bitch! It's not my fault that you can't take personal responsibility for your caffeine needs!"

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