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HOW DARE YOU CALL ME FAT
Mars from Chicken Dinner Candybar does her regular Fat Love Friday and includes Marie from Agent Lover.

Marie is put off by her inclusion on a "fat" list and tells Mars so.

Mars offers to take it down. Marie refuses. Instead, she proclaims on her blog, "oh haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaale no!

Chaos ensues in the comments about fatphobia, body acceptance, fashion sense (or the lack thereof), and kissing-up commentors.

Is Marie brave or is she overreacting?

(I'm in the comments and I know Natalie [the 'overreacting' link], so I am slightly involved in the wank aftermath. It's pretty obvious which side i'm on.)

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	naive_wanderer 2009-08-05 04:03 am UTC (link)
	I run into confusion about how to respond when I'm speaking to someone who refers to herself as "fat" in a negative way. I've settled for saying something along the lines of "you look great," because she usually does. Why would you want to be a stick girl when you have gorgeous boobs and/or a butt? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

frau_eva
2009-08-05 05:21 am UTC (link)

All you can really do is avoid it, and I think that the person in question would agree. Any acknowledgment of it is going to make her feel bad, because she can't not associate that trait with something negative. But she still knows that she's fat, and insisting that she's not doesn't mean that she'll believe you. Really, that's a personal journey that there's not necessarily a whole lot you can do to help with.

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	naive_wanderer 2009-08-05 05:28 am UTC (link)
	Yeah, I'm certainly wary of saying the wrong thing because it's not something I've dealt with myself -- I've always been shapelessly thin -- and I never want to exacerbate body issues. I just try to let these particular friends know that I think they're beautiful! (Reply to this)(Parent)

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