It was probably 25 years ago now, but what ticks me off is that I still have to balance in my head everything she was while alive on one side, and "stupid how could you do that you knew better whaargarble dammit" on the other. Irrational pretty much covers it.

I had another one of those recently too, so it's kind of on my mind. Not drunk driving, but a "I wish you were alive so I could ask you WTF were you thinking and smack you SO hard in the head for thinking that" moment.