Victim blaming and rape apology really get my hackles up. I am trying to read Sparkymonster charitably and assume "I am doing my best to carefully say “Jack is a rape survivor who I believe and support” and not say “Kynn is a rapist," is really SUPPOSED to mean, "I want to focus on Jack as a rape survivor rather than on Kynn being a rapist," but fuck, there are a lot of contortions to do that, particularly when Sparkymonster seems to think there's no cognitive dissonance in her wording.