I think I see where you're coming from now (It was the "her accuser" bit that threw me too, because I was thinking "But isn't she the one doing the accusing?") Not sure I agree 100% because I think this is a slightly different situation, but I can't put my finger on why, so I should probably leave it there.

I'm sorry this is so painful for you. It's dragging stuff up for a lot of people. (Self-included. No big trauma, but self-proclaimed feminists who don't know what the word "No" means are sadly not all that rare.)