She wants to say Kynn is a rapist; she just doesn't want to be forced to contend with all the connotations of the word -- someone who preys on boundaries, someone who has enjoyed him/herself while another was clearly distressed, someone who is likely a repeat offender, etc. "Something bad happened and I believe Jack, but... this person is my friend! They're a good rapist! They can change!"

Right. Because every rape accusation is leveled at a first time offender and recidivism isn't a given or anything.

It's very weaselly and for my money, she can fuck the hell off. When I finally told someone who knew my abuser what had happened and who did it, the most telling gesture of his (my friend's) support was when he said he now needed to "renegotiate" his relationship to my abuser and pull away. Because why would you want to know someone who has done that and how can you straightfacedly say, "I'm your friend and I'm totally behind you, I absolutely believe this happened, but that has nothing to do with my friendship with the rapist." The victims end up ostracized and abusers carry a whiff of accusation about them but generally their social world doesn't change.

It infuriates me and I seriously can't believe that post is getting ... complimented? Now, if she had said "I don't want to get into 'Is Kynn a Rapist: Let Us Have a Long and Technical Discussion of Such, With Bonus Citations to Relevant Statutes'" that would be one thing, but that's not what she said.

More hypothetically, can Jean Doe have raped someone and still be involved with social justice movements? Yes they can as long as they take responsibility for what they did, and have done work to make sure they won't do it again.

And I can't even get into this because my head spins.