I'm hoping the whole 'but I'm not going to call Kynn a ~rapist' wasn't in there when they first linked, because otherwise all the links and lauding are really troubling to me.

They weren't when I first saw it.

I'm holding out hope that she will rethink- from what I've read of her previously, I... think she will? But then I was really surprised about those etas, and increasingly distressed as she posted more of them. I think she (quite naturally) is having trouble accepting that her friend, or former friend, may well be, yes, a rapist. That doesn't change the fact that what she posted was... god, I don't even know. Upsetting and offensive and just... I don't know. Maybe I'm doing the same thing, making excuses- I wouldn't call her a friend, because I don't know her beyond the occasional LJ comment, but I've always really respected her. I really hope she walks back from those statements.

In some feminist communities online, I've read people advocate for the use of "I'm sorry s/he raped you" as opposed to "I'm sorry you were raped" - er, usually not said like that but in essence making the sentence active, not passive. This thing didn't just 'happen', someone *did* it. That wording always felt awkward and artificial to me, but I'm starting think maybe it's a useful frame after all.