IKR? But I guess the whole point of rapists being dangerous is that if you could take care of things like that reasonably and responsibly and lovingly, you'd be less likely to rape someone at all.

Or less likely for the whole awful thing to implode like this because, in this case at least, you'd know that your partner felt that you'd raped them and you could have dealt with this a long time ago—even if you didn't manage not to rape them at all.