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mefan (![[info]](http://www.journalfen.net/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small} mefan) wrote in ![[info]](http://www.journalfen.net/img/community.gif){kind=small} unfunny_fandom, |
This is why people who do not fully understand the nuances of BDSM have no business engaging in D/s relationships. Any proper Dominant would be able to detect when their submissive partner was uncomfortable w/certain aspects of play.
"No means no except when it means yes" only applies when there has been a careful and detailed outlining of what is kosher and what isn't beforehand (rape fantasy isn't something that two play partners just decide to do one day on the fly -- personally, I find it distasteful, but I have friends who are also into BDSM who do not and I know that they always have any scene involving non-con planned in extremely intricate detail). And even then, sometimes w/in the context of non-con play "no" can really mean "no" and as I said above any proper Dominant would be able to pick up on that.
Non-TL;DR version:
Jack was raped. Kynn raped Jack. Ergo, Kynn is a rapist. Intentionally or otherwise.
"No means no except when it means yes" only applies when there has been a careful and detailed outlining of what is kosher and what isn't beforehand (rape fantasy isn't something that two play partners just decide to do one day on the fly -- personally, I find it distasteful, but I have friends who are also into BDSM who do not and I know that they always have any scene involving non-con planned in extremely intricate detail). And even then, sometimes w/in the context of non-con play "no" can really mean "no" and as I said above any proper Dominant would be able to pick up on that.
Non-TL;DR version:
Jack was raped. Kynn raped Jack. Ergo, Kynn is a rapist. Intentionally or otherwise.
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