Yeah, I definitely get that. I'm just worried that if person A says, "It happened because it was a BDSM relationship" and person B says, "It WASN'T a BDSM relationship", what's implied is that if it had been a kinky relationship then person A's point would be valid. Which it wouldn't.

Person B needs to be saying, "Actually, this relationship didn't have BDSM elements, but even if it did, that wouldn't excuse what Kynn did. Rape isn't tolerated in the BDSM communities and her behaviour would still be horrible if it had been a kink situation."