I certainly hope you're not directing that at me. I never said that BDSM causes rape. I never implied that BDSM causes rape. I said that people who are not aware of the nuances of BDSM have no business involving themselves in a D/s relationship. I said this under the assumption that the relationship mentioned above was a D/s relationship and that one partner was saying they were raped and the other was saying that there had been no intention. I then also mentioned that intention or not, rape is rape.

I would never condemn a lifestyle that I myself practice as something that causes harm, trauma, rape, etc., etc.