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hide our sins, it's different if it's my friend, misconceptions about feminism, rape culture, schedule your rape accusations, sj means never having to say you're sry, social justice, transfail

Heartbreak & Heroines
Kynn created a RPG called Heartbreak & Heroines, and used Kickstarter to get $3000 in funding in 48 hours. Over on LJ, Jack posted his response to his ex's success, in two minds because he's glad someone he knows did something cool, Kynn raped him. A couple days later, alexandraerin posts as well, expressing dismay at Kynn's behavior.

Jack posts Tweets from Kynn and later, emails,. At some point, the Kickstart for the RPG is canceled.

Some responses are laudable. Others, not so much.

ETA: Kynn tried to get a new name on RPG post-ban.

ETA2: Elf has a post about it.

ETA3: Kynn denies the rape happened.

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the_con_cept
2011-07-30 06:54 pm UTC (link)

Yeah, the weasel wording was pretty gross. I'm also taken aback by the number of other people linking to Sparkymonster's post uncritically. I'm hoping the whole 'but I'm not going to call Kynn a ~rapist' wasn't in there when they first linked, because otherwise all the links and lauding are really troubling to me.

As a survivor, Sparkymonster's comments are the kind of support I WOULD NOT WANT OR NEED. The comments were offensive and hurtful to rape survivors who have to (or have had to) struggle with being heard while their abuser is always given the benefit of the doubt. Seriously, rape culture much? I'd really like Sparkymonster to rethink those comments.

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red_eft
2011-07-31 12:56 am UTC (link)

I'm hoping the whole 'but I'm not going to call Kynn a ~rapist' wasn't in there when they first linked, because otherwise all the links and lauding are really troubling to me.

They weren't when I first saw it.

I'm holding out hope that she will rethink- from what I've read of her previously, I... think she will? But then I was really surprised about those etas, and increasingly distressed as she posted more of them. I think she (quite naturally) is having trouble accepting that her friend, or former friend, may well be, yes, a rapist. That doesn't change the fact that what she posted was... god, I don't even know. Upsetting and offensive and just... I don't know. Maybe I'm doing the same thing, making excuses- I wouldn't call her a friend, because I don't know her beyond the occasional LJ comment, but I've always really respected her. I really hope she walks back from those statements.

In some feminist communities online, I've read people advocate for the use of "I'm sorry s/he raped you" as opposed to "I'm sorry you were raped" - er, usually not said like that but in essence making the sentence active, not passive. This thing didn't just 'happen', someone *did* it. That wording always felt awkward and artificial to me, but I'm starting think maybe it's a useful frame after all.

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