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hide our sins, it's different if it's my friend, misconceptions about feminism, rape culture, schedule your rape accusations, sj means never having to say you're sry, social justice, transfail

Heartbreak & Heroines
Kynn created a RPG called Heartbreak & Heroines, and used Kickstarter to get $3000 in funding in 48 hours. Over on LJ, Jack posted his response to his ex's success, in two minds because he's glad someone he knows did something cool, Kynn raped him. A couple days later, alexandraerin posts as well, expressing dismay at Kynn's behavior.

Jack posts Tweets from Kynn and later, emails,. At some point, the Kickstart for the RPG is canceled.

Some responses are laudable. Others, not so much.

ETA: Kynn tried to get a new name on RPG post-ban.

ETA2: Elf has a post about it.

ETA3: Kynn denies the rape happened.

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juliansinger
2011-07-31 03:14 am UTC (link)

Yah, cling to normality... Or, don't realize that what happened could be interpreted as/could be/was rape. There's still an emotional step to take from saying, "I didn't want that," to calling it full on rape. And that's a hard step, often.

That very long AIM log from 6/18 has that in spades. (In addition to some spot on manipulative-depressive behavior from Kynn.) So really, Jack's progression makes perfect sense to me, and the last six paragraphs of Kynn's post make me want to spit.

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jackandahat
2011-07-31 03:19 am UTC (link)

Or realise it, but still be trying to rationalise it away.

I've seen people mention that he might not have been wanting to think of Kynn as a rapist, because she was his girlfriend, but also... maybe he didn't want to think of himself as a rape victim? (Especially if he was already a survivor, the sense of "not again...")

If you say to yourself "I was raped", you have to come to the terms with the fact that happened - someone did that to you and you couldn't stop it. If you can say to yourself "Well, it shouldn't have happened, but it was just bad sex..." then that has a very different effect, different headspace.

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	seiberwing 2011-07-31 07:41 am UTC (link)
	I don't know what she thought she'd accomplish--she's practically nailed herself to the wall regarding personal redemption. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	ickle_snowflake 2011-07-31 04:14 pm UTC (link)
	The thought that she probably picked out the IMs she felt put her in a good light and those were the best she could do makes me recoil, even before the rest of her post factors in. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	seiberwing 2011-07-31 06:07 pm UTC (link)
	shudders (Reply to this)(Parent)

	duraniedrama 2011-07-31 06:12 pm UTC (link)
	she's practically nailed herself to the wall Looks more to me like she nailed herself to a cross. (Reply to this)(Parent)

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