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hide our sins, it's different if it's my friend, misconceptions about feminism, rape culture, schedule your rape accusations, sj means never having to say you're sry, social justice, transfail

Heartbreak & Heroines
Kynn created a RPG called Heartbreak & Heroines, and used Kickstarter to get $3000 in funding in 48 hours. Over on LJ, Jack posted his response to his ex's success, in two minds because he's glad someone he knows did something cool, Kynn raped him. A couple days later, alexandraerin posts as well, expressing dismay at Kynn's behavior.

Jack posts Tweets from Kynn and later, emails,. At some point, the Kickstart for the RPG is canceled.

Some responses are laudable. Others, not so much.

ETA: Kynn tried to get a new name on RPG post-ban.

ETA2: Elf has a post about it.

ETA3: Kynn denies the rape happened.

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Re: Aaaand it keeps going!

harrylovesron
2011-07-31 03:55 am UTC (link)

The "not acting like a proper rape survivor" thing is such a pile of steaming horseshit. People have a whole range of reactions to being raped, and none of them should be used to tell a victim they are wrong because it doesn't match whatever stereotype inside a given person's head.

It reminds me of an incident on a forum I used to mod where a member and rape survivor was talking about her experience and got dismissed by my fellow mod because she "didn't act like someone who had been raped".

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Re: Aaaand it keeps going!

jackandahat
2011-07-31 04:20 am UTC (link)

I've been told that myself. I have no triggers around rape, and (pardon the TMI) pre-disability I enjoyed a very active sex life. Apparently being happy to have sex in my teens/young adulthood meant I couldn't have been molested as a child.

Mind, I was also told I couldn't have had an abusive childhood in general because I was too articulate. Apparently no child who was ever beaten is able to stand up for themselves and win discussions. I'm still baffled by that logic.

So yeah, I have a special hate for the "But you're not acting like a proper victim!" trope.

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Re: Aaaand it keeps going!

franzen
2011-07-31 05:33 am UTC (link)

I actually get the articulate thing. Even when I was at my most 'developmentally delayed' or 'failing to achieve expected targets' (based on my verbal communication skills and reading level and also just relative to everyone else -- I went through a profound and obvious isolated/weird stage), no one went, "Oh, huh, I wonder what's going on at home." It's actually staggering how many teachers and school administrative professionals (e.g., guidance counselors, nurses) missed the very obvious abused child symptoms because I was articulate. Hug on the astral plane from someone else who's been there?

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Re: Aaaand it keeps going!

jackandahat
2011-07-31 06:10 am UTC (link)

Yeah - I was top of my class for a long time (I'm not particularly smart, I just grew up early) so clearly, I must have wonderful supportive parents. I used to have such a snarl reaction to people who called me well-brought up - I know that's the usual thing to say when a child exhibits table manners and the ability to hold a conversation, or a teenager can actually use full senetences, but it was very much self-taught and I did not want That Woman getting credit!

*hugs* I'd rather no-one knew what it was like, because it sucks, but sometimes it's nice to not be the only one!

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