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bishounenhideto
2011-08-02 01:30 pm UTC (link)

Let me gives folks some more insight into Kynn.

I've known Kynn for years off and on. 10 or so years ago, I used to be friendlier with Kynn. We knew each other on an online text-based RPG (TinyMUCKs, for those who know). She used to be good friends with my ex-husband, Jim, who is Chinese. Kynn and I had a disagreement over free speech. She ran a discussion board that she claimed had free speech. One day, people talked about a subject she didn't enjoy and told those people they weren't allowed to talk about it on her board anymore. It wasn't especially inflammatory. She just got bored of it. She stated this openly. I challenged her that by asking people to no longer discuss a topic she considered boring, on her board, her board was no longer free speech. She argued it still was, she just was sick of that topic and told them to go somewhere else. I decided to set up that "somewhere else" so people could discuss this "boring topic" to their heart's content. This bugged Kynn to no end. I mentioned my board was free speech, more so than hers, and allowed people to post whatever they wanted.

She decided in a fit of severe pique, to test that theory. She specifically went against good sense/spirit of the law and spammed the crap out of the board petulantly, claiming that if my board was truly free speech, I was not allowed to clean up the spam or I'd be the same hypocrite I was claiming she was. I didn't let that goad me, and agreed and left it up, knowing she'd get bored of posting the spam soon enough. Apparently this bothered her that I wasn't going to whine about it or change it. Seeing that spam didn't work, she began posting curse words or other immature profanities, claiming I still couldn't clean up the board or I'd no longer be free speech. I again decided to let her get bored with doing that. When that didn't work, she knew she only had one recourse left to truly goad me.

Jim and Kynn had been friends longer than I'd been married to Jim. Jim was at work when this was happening. Kynn was logged into two online text games at once, one a casual place where the members just talked about their lives, played around with game code, and generally didn't do much. The other one, the one I was connected to at the time, was a more roleplay-oriented game. Jim was on the casual game as he didn't enjoy online RP as much anymore. He wasn't on the other place and was unaware of what I was doing because he was busy with work and only chatting idly on the casual place with his online friends, including Kynn.

Knowing that profanities didn't work, that spamming didn't work, Kynn decided on a new tack. In front of another RPer on the RP game, she called Jim a slanty-eyed chink. The other RPer messaged me remotely in shock and said I'd better come over as I wouldn't be able to believe what just happened. I showed up and there was Kynn, who then proceeded to say (type) it directly in front of me online. I asked her how she could say such appalling things about a friend, behind his back, and Kynn's excuse? "They're just words. They can't actually hurt anyone." This flabbergasted me. I said words most certainly did hurt people. She again persisted that Jim had sustained no injury, no bruise, no cut, and that if Jim decided to get emotionally hurt by her calling him a yellow, slanty-eyed chink, that was Jim's choice to react thusly. In short, "Calling him a yellow slanty-eyed chink is just calling him a bunch of words and if he gets offended by that, the cry-baby chose to feel that way. I've done nothing wrong."

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bishounenhideto
2011-08-02 01:31 pm UTC (link)

I was livid. I'm a very protective person, and back then, Jim was my everything. (For the record, we're divorced but now good friends, Jim and I.) I immediately called Jim and told him what Kynn did. Jim turned to the casual game he and Kynn were both logged into and told her in front of the other people there online, "If you want to insult me, at least do it to my face." and then blocked Kynn. Jim said Kynn apparently tried to backpedal, or possibly do the "You chose to get offended! That's not my problem!" argument, but Jim stopped listening.

Jim's a much better man than Kynn ever figured and was more simply disgusted by it than hurt. He's long since forgotten about it now and doesn't really care. I know this was 10 years ago, but it still speaks to the mind of Kynn, I feel. She's willing to say/do anything she wants to further her own advantage or agenda.

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	sepiamagpie 2011-08-02 03:23 pm UTC (link)
	Kynn really has shown herself to be a reasonable, gentle human being, hasn't she. Someone in another thread was mentioning that she uses SJ for bullying people too. Which, if she used racism before, I'm not actually surprised by the switch. Someone who'll do that won't worry about being a massive hypocrite, especially if they can get kudos for it. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	fernmonkey 2011-08-02 05:17 pm UTC (link)
	Yes. This is a person who is a bully by nature, and has figured out that some forms of bullying actually get praise and pats on the back. (Reply to this)(Parent)

	cmdr_zoom 2011-08-03 02:54 am UTC (link)
	Whatever gets a reaction. (If it doesn't, try something else and/or escalate.) They don't necessarily have to believe any of it. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	sepiamagpie 2011-08-03 03:21 am UTC (link)
	Oh, I'm talking about bullying. (Reply to this)(Parent)

	menthodelic 2011-08-02 04:17 pm UTC (link)
	Wow... I don't even... Wow... What absolutely horrid behaviour. I'm so glad I've never had the occasion to interact with Kynn online, as she sounds like the absolute worst mix of ignorant and arrogrant. (Reply to this)(Parent)

	cyndra_falin 2011-08-03 01:49 am UTC (link)
	Kynn is a disgusting pile of the worst kind of shit I've ever seen. >=( (Reply to this)(Parent)

	fools_game 2011-08-03 02:32 am UTC (link)
	That gels really closely with what alexadraerin was saying about Kynn pushing Jack's boundaries constantly, testing to see how much she could get away with. What a fucking psychopath. (Reply to this)(Parent)

	jackandahat 2011-08-02 01:53 pm UTC (link)
	Well, that sums her up nicely. I wonder if her POC SJ friends know this? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	pyratejenni 2011-08-02 08:18 pm UTC (link)
	I suspect some of them do, and are ignoring it in hopes she won't target them. (Reply to this)(Parent)

	starkeymonster 2011-08-04 03:55 am UTC (link)
	I'd never heard of her doing it before. The more you know! About how horrible someone can be. (Reply to this)(Parent)

	kittikattie 2011-08-04 08:06 pm UTC (link)
	Now knowing this, I am stomach-flippingly appalled. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	jackandahat 2011-08-04 08:28 pm UTC (link)
	I'm sorry. (And sorry I was being flippant there too, that was rude.) (Reply to this)(Parent)

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