I agree with what you're saying for the most part, but the way things are now, a lot of the queer relationships on television are still primarily subtextual. Many of the characters who are portrayed as queer are usually walking stereotypes still, and (I feel like) the richest and most heartfelt relationships are often those that aren't outright portrayed as such. At least they're often more representative of my experience than other ones.

I do hate that Moffat (and Cumberbatch from what I've seen) tease gay in the show and then say "oh, nope, no queers here!" in interviews.