Well yeah, it's just a fantasy, not an act. What I'm saying is when it's something as extreme as that, you can't expect everyone, especially in what they consider a safe space, to go 'how wonderful!'

Like I said, you're not a bad person for having it. But just because it's something important to you doesn't mean it doesn't effect other people when you bust it out.

Your example is so basic it's light years away from the concept of a rape fantasy.