To be fair: I think what she's trying to say is, "Slash (and fen thereof) can often be sexist and patriarchal, and I don't know how to combat that. As a known slashwriter, I am afraid to be unsexist because the sexist fen will attack me."

Which... okay, I don't agree "100%" that slash is patriarchal/perpetuates sexist stereotypes/norms, but there does exist such trends (particularly in certain fandoms). And I kind of even understand a bit of paranoia about "people read my LJ for __(thing 1)__, they might start wank/defriend me if I suddenly start posting all about __(thing 2)__."

I just don't agree that when "thing 1" is "slash" and "thing 2" is "awesome girls" you should fear for your life. Nor do I think you should silence your thoughts on sexism just because people are used to reading you for your thoughts on yaoi (literally!).