And yet, IME, they're the ones who break your heart the hardest because you do expect them to listen when you talk to them, and so freaking often they won't. Look, I'm happy your family and friends aren't like that. But your experiences are everyone's, right? I see a trend-- when I look online, when I look in politics, when I try to have discussions online and IRL about this kind of thing. Compromise, doing the minimum, being deeply invested in colorblindness and equality and "look how far we've come". And the dismay at Keith Olbermann going off the air because he's the champion of the left! (Point out his bigotry and rape apologism, and you're "shrill" and, again, "oversensitive".) At the end of the day, liberal politicians will largely cave to the people you're talking about in an effort to look neutral and centrist and nice as the goalposts get shifted further and further to the right.

It's just that attitude that they run a charity and made their con a bit more inclusive than the rest, so why isn't that good enough? that gets me. I'm sure they think they're the good guys, and their fans think they're good guys (or Nice Guys) because they think rape is wrong. I'm just overall tired of banging my head against shallow and insincere "allies". (And hell, you're doing it too, that "but they're not as bad as these (really loudly and overtly bigoted) people over here!" thing.)