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akedhi
2011-02-04 01:13 am UTC (link)

I've been trying to think of a way to put this that doesn't sound like I'm agreeing with them, but I'm going to try.

Some fourteen-year-olds with really intense crushes on older guys want, or think they want, to have sex for whatever reason. Maybe she thinks that's what relationships are, maybe there are other issues in her life, maybe she's been molested already. It happens. But whatever's going through her head, that does not mean she really understands what's going on, that it constitutes informed consent, or that the older guy can say 'she wants it, it's okay.' It's not okay, and it is the responsibility of the adult in the situation to gently reject such advances if they do occur.

(I'm still not sure if I'm making sense - I just remember being a fourteen-year-old with really confused ideas about relationships, sex, and marriage, and if I hadn't been quite so painfully shy, it's not at all a stretch for me to think that I would have tried to initiate something like that with one of the older guys I crushed on.)

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	ealusaid 2011-02-04 01:15 am UTC (link)
	Yeah, I agree with you. I know women who say "You know what, I had sex with older men when I was 14 and it was awesome" but... I still can't help but think statutory rape laws and age of consent are a really good idea because sometimes young'uns just don't know what they're getting into and need to be protected from themselves. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	akedhi 2011-02-04 02:27 am UTC (link)
	I'm glad it came through all right. I kept thinking 'do I need more qualifiers? I don't want to sound like I'm saying it's okay to victimize "promiscuous" young teenagers!' (I swear, I've talked myself out of commenting so many times out of fear of saying something asinine.) (Reply to this)(Parent)

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