I hear you there. My mother (who has grown increasingly right-wing over the years, which is one reason I'm glad we live on opposite sides of the country) shocked the hell out of me when I was about fourteen by telling me, apropos of nothing, that I wasn't allowed to date black guys. This is the woman who claimed to have demonstrated in college for civil rights (I always did have my suspicions) and when I called her on it, claimed she wasn't racist because she had black friends. Oh, and this was in the 80s, when people really should have known better.