"She said this to me—the person who didn’t notice that one of her friends was Black or that another was Korean (I just thought of him as ‘really cute’) until it was pointed out (unfortunately, in both cases it was pointed out when they told a story about someone being prejudice against them.)"
eta: While poking through their info I see arhyalon and her husband both went to St. John's College and I will just be over hear shutting my ears in the oven door to keep from posting at their LJs to say they have made me ashamed to be a Johnnie.