Having been both the unmedicated trauma abuse victim neurologically imperfect (ADHD plus extra side dishes) child and the parent of a teenager with ADHD (now a self-reliant and yet still sometimes annoying young adult who belongs to journalfen) I find it discomforting to get all judgy about the behavior of others who have exceded their reality limits. YMMV and all, but I find it difficult enough to make the right decisions about my own life, and have long since gotten the "should" out of my social vocabulary.