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Sunday, October 31st, 2010
|Why Aren't You More Grateful?
Kate Beaton is a comic artist, (and a pretty funny one at that, imo). The thing is, apparently when some men think she's funny, they add "and I'd like to do you" at the end of the compliment. So Kate Beaton writes this:When you tell a female creator you like her work so much you want to marry her and have her babies, you’re not doing anyone any favors. First of all, as cute as it sounds in your head, it’s a shitty, disrespectful ‘compliment.’ No one makes comics looking for sexual attention. Secondly, by doing so you invite others to critique that person’s works based on their looks, which is uncomfortable, sexist and unfair.
So, obviously, the men in question are going to say "Oh, I didn't mean to be offensive, sorry about that. I won't do it again," right? I mean, since what they really wanted was to compliment her on her work, they'll care about wording the compliment in a way that doesn't creep her out, right?
@Burnaway just can't see why she has to be so rude. After a quick "Oh, yes, sexism is bad and you should be respected for your accomplishments, really."
The "However" jumps inI fail to see how proclaiming your appreciation of a person’s output by stating that you’d marry them and have their babies is in and of itself a terrible thing.
[Because she told you so? But no, never listen to teh wimmin when deciding for them what they're allowed to take offense at] The answer is, seemingly, something to do with “feminism”.
Isn’t it more up front to admit that you have some deeper personal insecurities that a zealous fan or stranger has somehow accidentally tapped into?
I’m sorry Kate, but at the end of the day a compliment is just that: A compliment. You don’t have to agree with the end message, you can feel uncomfortable receiving it, but until you’re sure of the intent you can at the very least be a gracious recipient. Anything else seems disrespectful, not to mention uncomfortable, sexist, and unfair.
Cue the cavalcade of "Yeah, why can't they just take it as a compliment?"Then this comic gets posted
And the comments play the whole thing over again. It's the Neverending Story of sexism!