there's a part of me that wishes we'd never tried starting an RP, because it brought out the worst in people I'd kind of liked before that.This makes me feel guilty. I know she's talking about t_d, and it's not really my fault, but I can't help feeling that it was my fault on some level; if I hadn't been so openly bitter, the other muns wouldn't have displayed a nasty side that she disliked.
I'm not going to do that meme, but the least-favorite pairing question has made me think about it and realize that Touya/Kaho is my second-least-favorite pairing, thanks to t_d. I should specify that it's just post-canon T/K that I seriously dislike; I think the precanon-T/K was sort of cute, and AU is a take-it-or-leave-it (and I would very much prefer T/K over T/Yue in some AU fics...)
The thing about t_d!T/K is that it was both the best and the worst example of the pairing I have ever seen. Best because it was best set up; worst because the
pairing was just fucked up on so many levels. The writing might have been good, but the way the characters brought out the worst in each other, and the way they refused to recognize that it wasn't working and instead shunted all blame onto a convenient scapegoat... It makes me shudder. And that's just the tip of the iceberg of dysfunction for them.
Unfortunately, most other T/K I've seen has quite a few of the same negative characteristics in common. It seems like Touya and Kaho always come together by hurting other people and not caring. I can see how it could happen; precanon!T/K has an air of "we don't care what other people say" to it, because of the teacher/student thing. Keep going with that attitude to "we don't care how anyone else feels" and finally to "we don't care who we hurt with our relationship", and you get t_d!T/K. Except that, in canon, Kaho
did care more about who she might hurt than her own happiness in the relationship, and that's why she broke it off. It feels like character regression, to go back to the carefree first-love relationship, especially when it hasn't really matured.