Interesting few days here at F_W. I've learned quite a lot.
I've been lurking on F_W for over 6 months (well before Crystal Wank) and also posted as an anon. I've tried to be respectful and non-wanky, but like those crazy Naz--uh--Southern Ladies Tea Parties, many, many rules are unwritten within F_W. If you don't know them and blunder into a wank uninformed, you are teh gauche.
The recent dustup confirmed my thought that F_W is no different from other communities and is susceptible to the same pitfalls. I think that's just human nature. When people come together, even if they are like-minded, all the same basic social rules apply. Where F_W is different, however, is that they aren't terribly polite and are proud to say so.
The BNFs now doing damage control are being polite which is nice, but makes me nervous. It's a classic damage control maneuver so the wank doesn't spin out of control and they can look good at the same time.
However, it leads me to believe that they may be wanking the rest of us not so politely in locked journals. I'm fine with that as long as I don't hear about it. I'll probably be fine with it even if I do hear about it
The thing about the mean high school girls being a cliche? Absolutely true. I was one.
It's a cliche, but the problem with cliches is that they have a habit of being true much of the time. If people are saying that you are acting like those bitchy high schoolers, well, you probably are. Does that excuse stupid behavior on either side? No.
The Phoenix wank was exactly the kind of thing F_W would jump on if it had occurred in another community. It had BNFs jumping on a member (rightly or wrongly), minions jumping on the bandwagon to say "Yes, Yes" even if they don't know what the hell the wank is about in the first place, and n00bs wandering around not knowing anything at all. Are the BNF members of F_W above reproach? Maybe is the answer I took away.
For the record, I was the one who made the 'eat their own' statement, and it got way out of control.
Like most things on F_W. I love it here.