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Re: wank

Making friends is hard for some people. Talking to people can be even harder. Yes, one could easily say "how can talking to someone be so hard??" and I don't know why, all I know is that it can take me hours, if not days, to call someone on the phone for legitimate reasons, and I would bury my face into a book or a DS just to avoid making eye contact with other people. I don't know why, it just happens that I have nonexistent social skills.

You can keep saying "just pick a mutual interest and start from there" or whatever, but it won't work if that person's problem involves being unable to say anything.

THIS IS THE INTERNET, I WOULD THINK PEOPLE ACTUALLY KNOW ABOUT THIS. Except apparently not!

Dammit, that wank could have been funny if the secret wasn't so depressing.

*smashes things*

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sandglass
2009-10-06 06:33 pm UTC (link)

This. I'm actually pretty good at talking to people, I volunteer, I know what to do when I run into people I know on the streets, but. . .I still have no RL friends (who haven't moved far away and turned into Internet friends). There's a big step between being able to talk about a TV show before class or at the water cooler and having friends. Heck, when I need someone to talk to, I'm barely capable of calling people who have specifically told me to call them when I need someone to talk to.

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coffeebun
2009-10-07 01:05 am UTC (link)

The thing is, I do have pretty good rl friends, and I know they're good people whom I can actually get along with and etc. But when I do need someone to talk to, I'm too shy to call them even if I know they won't mind. And since I'm not big on group activities, I tend to shunt myself in a corner when I have to attend get-togethers, etc. I already have problems talking to people online, let alone irl.

Making friends: not as easy as it seems.

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ruaki
2009-10-06 09:47 pm UTC (link)

Prettttttty much, yup.

For me, I think a lot of it is that I can't focus my thoughts when I'm "on the spot" so I either say something stupid (and often garbled, mispronouncing common words or switching words around or just flat out not even saying the right word) or noncommittal "safe" stuff ("really?" "okay" "wow").

As such, people find me uninteresting RL, which is fine (and true), as that's how I prefer it.

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	coffeebun 2009-10-07 01:13 am UTC (link)
	One of my problems is that I won't (or can't) initiate conversation, irl and online. As such, people find me boring, and I don't mind. When I do finally say something, people just think of me as weird instead of boring, and I'm not really sure if that's much better. (Reply to this)(Parent)