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Happy 420 to everyone who celebrates.

Everyone who doesn't... go have a cookie or something anyway.

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If you're into service - what kind of tasks do you like to set/have set for you? (I want to ask doms and subs.)

I just saw something that split them into groups:
- Chores: Housework, picking up the dry cleaning, etc.
- Sub improvement: Go to the gym, learn a language, things that alter the sub.
- Devotions: Things that are strictly about the dom/domme, like taking pictures for them.
- Because I Said So: Completely pointless things done because the dom/domme wants them done.

I would add:

- Sexual service: Any kind of sex where it's exactly what/how they want, because they want it.

Which of these do you do? Why? Any other types missing from the list?

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Obviously if you're reading this then you do some but do you do "standard" social media like Facebook/Twitter? If you do, do you do private stuff or public? How much do you interact with people?

Back when Dissociatives were on tour (long enough ago that this was on MySpace) I would steal Paul's keyboard and write my own bits in the middle of his posts but I've never actually done my own. Honestly I find the whole thing kind of freaky - it's like inviting a million people into your living room, makes me feel very uncomfortable. I'm just not good at that side of things.

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I was looking for a game memory card. Found one type called... Assecure.

Is it just me or does "Assecure" sound like a type of chastity belt? Or maybe a company making belts?

*suspicious*

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Short version: Do dom/sub stuff in your relationships affect how you work out things like travelling and living arrangements?

Longer version: My brother brought up that I travel a lot to my girlfriend's schedule. We're from different parts of Australia, she performs in LA too, and because right now I don't have any work commitments that need me to be in a certain place I can go with her for most things - it works out really well.

And Heath knows I'm kinky... so he asked if this was because she's my domme. (Sometimes I wonder why I ever told him about this stuff, then I remember - surfing. Easier to tell him the truth than try and hide/work around bruises and cane marks.) If it was something to do with her "telling [me] what to do."

Which for me it isn't - it's a "relationship thing" not a "kinky relationship thing", I have the chance to go with her so I do. But I ended up wondering if it did work that way for some people. If you have a dom and they work away, do they make the arrangements about what you do? If you have a sub, flip that round, do you arrange what they do?

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People who draw/paint/take photos/do other visual stuff like that - do you use your partners in what you do at all? Either on purpose where you want to make a picture of them or where you're using them as a base/reference for something else?

Do you ask people before you art them, or not? Do you tell them after? How do you feel about being asked to draw/paint/etc someone?

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Say you're at the club and you want to play with someone new.

Do you look around approach someone, or do you wait for someone to approach you?

Do you bring up scening right away or get talking about other things then bring it up/wait for them to?

Are you dom or sub? (If switch, does which one you're looking for affect your answer?)

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Happy happy day folks. Smoke responsibly.

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Jim Marshall has passed away.

The man was a legend, responsible for a lot of other legends. RIP.

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Video is semi-NSFW - pole-dancing but no nudity

Now I get why guys go to strip clubs.

That, ladies and gents, is my domme.

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I should be packing, but this came up in the middle of talking about packing so I'm taking five minutes. I really really really object to people who use "OCD" to mean "likes things tidy" or "really organised". They're not even remotely the same thing and it's really unhelpful when people treat them the same.

What's your pet peeve?

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I was looking at a message board for a toy site and there was this stupid post asking men who liked pegging if we were gender-confused because of it. The answers were full of straight/bi guys saying no, but then women started jumping in and answering, and a gay man.

And now I'm confused - just not about gender.

I thought pegging was specifically a man getting fucked in the arse by a woman. But some people seem to be saying that it's anyone doing anal with toys. So... what's the definition you know?

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I'm not even going to go into why this came up, but... why do people throw underwear at musicians*?

I'm not complaining! I just want to know why. What's the intent? I know there's other people here who've had it done, but have any of you done it?

*EDIT: Musicians they're not actually sleeping with.

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Alpha Nail. Because apparently there's something wrong with men buying normal nail polish.

"No self respecting man should ever have to buy cotton balls." "our unique click pen applicator does away with those dainty little brushes and girly nail polish containers."

Really, guys, I promise... your dick isn't going to fall off if you use a brush.

(I'm sort of torn between being angry - because this is bullshit and it is the kind of bullshit that screws people up just for stepping outside of their little pre-defined box - and laughing my arse off because they just sound so desperate and kind of pathetic.)

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I guess it's official now. Technically "Indefinite hibernation" isn't the same as splitting up, but really...

What I keep coming back to is how much this feels like getting divorced did. When you still love someone but you've realised that what you have isn't going to work any more. I managed exactly four years of being married, I've been playing music with Ben and Chris for twenty. Who you are at thirty two isn't who you are at twelve, and I still love them but we're different people now, very different people.

My brother is coming over in a bit and we're going to get drunk, it seems like a good idea. Any advice? I guess it's probably a bit like having a TV show or something finish too, not quite the same, but when everything shifts under you.

I'll be fine. It's just going to take work.

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Do you believe in psychics? Tarot cards, people telling the future, that kind of thing?

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I'm sure we could make all kinds of jokes about going from 420 to Earth day... but seriously. It's a really good cause.

(The footprint quiz always makes me feel guilty because I fall down really badly on house size, and air travel. I think the turtles hate me.)

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Happy 4/20 happy people.

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We have war, poverty, natural disasters, and you're up in arms about a boy getting his nails painted? Seriously? This is how you spend your time?

I've been painting my nails for the last twenty years, and I'm pretty sure my dick hasn't dropped off yet. I think gender roles are basically overrated anyway, but seriously, painted nails are not that big a deal.

ETA ten minutes later: OK, so now I'm wondering. Do you care about gender roles? Do you have any opinion on them, or is it something you don't think about? Do you stick to them or not? And what colour are your nails right now?

Nail polish: Cross-dressing, not, or maybe? Why?

(Question open to people who wear make-up or people who don't, it's all cool.)