QotD
"Hate can be exhausting, but don't anyone ever tell me that
someone who has been targeted by this kind of 'invisible'
plausible-deniability violence should be denied the option of
hate if they choose it at any given point. I have chosen hate and
used it at specific times for specific purposes, and it is in
some contexts a tool for resisting this kind of heinous violence
and the denial of the violence. Perpetrators who do violence
inside this plausible deniability dynamic ... yes, hate as a
response to [experiencing] that violence is an option that should
not be denied IMO.
"It has its pros and cons as does
any other resistance strategy, but I say don't deny targets of
this kind of violence the right to choose it at any given point.
That's my experience-based perspective on this, as someone who
has chosen hate for particular purposes in particular
contexts.
"One of the uses of hate, in my
experience, is that can help keep the subtle violence really
clearly visible amidst tremendous pressure to forget or ignore
that someone has done and/or is doing violence to
me.
"That's my own experience, and don't anyone tell
me I am wrong to choose that when it serves my ability to resist
the violence done to me by those with more privilege, those who
get to hide their weapons and the violence they do under the
cover that this heinous system gives to them when they act as its
agents."
-- michelle (commenter at Pam's house
Blend),
2009-07-02