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December 21st, 2012
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| And I'm bullying my wife into being my date to the premiere. I mean, ( look at this ) The hair. The hair. ps- I think I may have a small crush on Martin Freeman. I blame it on 2/3 of my bed being English. (Or half, I guess, since Simon and Thandie together would technically only be 3/4 English themselves?) | ||||||
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December 15th, 2012
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| hey I'm out shopping with Jess and we saw this at the pet store, can I get for Puck? do you think? ( img attached ) | ||||||
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June 9th, 2012
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| [public to Est] Referring to my wife here, incidentally, not my husband, though Sir, you're very intelligent too, and hmm, maybe I'll quit while I'm ahead :-) So I'll do Sir-squeeing when Trek 2 comes out, but for now, I HAVE to share this video of Thandie's TED Talk last year in Edinburgh because it's just so amazing and thought-provoking. The Cliff Notes version, for those who don't have time to watch (though you'd better later, when you do): Thandie's talking about how we don't connect with each other authentically and value human lives because we're so wrapped up in the self--the self being something that's created and molded from how other's perceive us, in reaction to or maybe in absorption of others opinions, descriptions, compliments, and insults. In the video she talks a lot about Africa, race, and her own experiences of her self being destroyed again and again until she realized that her self wasn't a real thing. But what I want to ask here is about connection, and how you make authentic connections with other people. Thandie gives the examples of dance (where you lose the self and connect to things like the air and the ground, returning to that infant state of curiosity and sensation without self-awareness) and acting (where you take on another self, transcending your own identity). I'm wondering who has thoughts on other means, though--my first thought was sex, a cliche as it sounds, because sex does get you into that id space where it's more about bodies and sensations than the self you present. And also service, because when I'm in a true service space, I do lose myself in a way--though maybe my serving self is hyper-constructed by how dominants view me, and it's important to realize that that isn't me, so judgements don't hit so hard. Any thoughts? | ||||||
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April 7th, 2012
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| [players not pups, TW for vague references to an abusive storyline, backdated to mid-October because we completely forgot to post...] "This is going to be so good," Jon enthuses, practically dragging Simon by the hand once he's given his keys to the valet. It's been ages since they've been to the club for a date, it seems, and Jon's in a particularly good mood. "I'm not sorry that I don't have to go to therapy every week now, but I do miss our little post-session lunches followed by pornographic encounters." Simon chuckles. "So do I." He squeezes Jon's arse. "Do you want to keep your clothes on inside, or take them off? I'll leave it up to you tonight." ( Maybe I can take them off once we're settled? ) | ||||||
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March 23rd, 2012
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| [public to Est] This will sound silly, but it's bugging me. Is there an age cut-off on the phrase, "silver fox?" An old friend of mine was debating this with me, because he said I'm a silver fox and I thought that made me sound much older than I am. I wouldn't call someone under 50 a silver fox, maaaaybe late 40s, irrespective of hair color. What do you think? | ||||||
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February 28th, 2012
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| [public to Est] I have heard one too many stupidface "expert" diagnose someone with sex addiction because the guy likes to sleep with a lot of people, or wants to be in multiple relationships, or cheats. If you're a cheater, you're a cheater. Sure you could be a sex addict, but it's an entirely separate issue. Want to sleep with lots people or be in multiple relationships? GREAT HAVE FUN. My life is a hundred thousand times more fulfilling with my multiple romantic and sexual relationships. Sex addiction has NOTHING TO DO with your number of partners. I think I did have a kind of sex addiction, or more accurately, a kink addiction, where I was using D/s relationships to satisfy an unhealthy need or to gloss over actual problems in my life, kind of like other people use alcohol or drugs or food. Guess what? I had one partner at a time then. When I met Simon, I think I was ready to use him in the same way, but he didn't let me, because he focused on showing me my own value and wouldn't let me use our relationship to cover things up or prove the bad things I thought about. He supported me confronting the problems I was using D/s to avoid and you know what happened? I married him. And I have fabulous sex with many people* and am blissful I tell you. Blissful. So fuck you, experts. *And am also married to another fabulous person who helps me believe in myself and keep me from going to that bad place again every day so there | ||||||
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December 25th, 2011
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| ( For Simon and Thandie ) ( For John and Kerri ) ( For Jess ) ( For Paget ) | ||||||
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| As much as I hate this not so consensual sounding Christmas carol, I kind of love this music video that my friend did with one of his friends for Christmas. Captions and half in ASL as well! Merry Christmas to you all. | ||||||
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November 13th, 2011
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| [these were sent 11/6, post delayed due to mun, not pup!] In Thandie's room, fifty dark red calla lilies . And on her pillow, a ruby-and-diamond white gold snake bracelet and a card: My dearest wife, Quite simply, you have ensnared me. Please accept this token of my affection on your birthday. All my love, your husband and your boy, Jon | ||||||
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November 10th, 2011
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| [public to Est] Sometimes it's hard to find a way to bring up something you really like. I'm giving you all an out, now, not to have to tell anyone specific, but to announce one of your foolproof happymakers (a touch, an action, a bodypart, a phrase, whatever) in a place where your lovers, current or future, can find it. For example, one of mine is fingernails on the back of my neck. | ||||||
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October 30th, 2011
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| [public to Est] I've been hiding out a bit lately, what with wedding and honeymoon and Thandie moving in and big house of lovers and pets and neverending joy. But all this neverending joy has got me thinking (and also, a trip with my friend Matthew to go pumpkin-hunting). I don't think grownups play enough. I think we're afraid of play. Sure, we have fun, but do we really play? (Not talking about kink. Pervs.) Sometimes people giggle at my attitude towards play, and the fact that I have a whole room for it, in fact, that even has a Magical Relaxation Tent, and crayons. But I think this is a good thing. I'm not the only adult who does this, either. This girl uses ducks. So ladies, gentlemen, and other fabulous individuals, I present to you, and encourage you to add items onto in comments.... ( The Unofficial Establishment Manifesto of Play (A Work in Progress) ) | ||||||
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September 25th, 2011
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| [public to Est] That is all I have to say about that. I only got out of bed for the room service man. I hear suspicious naked-type sounds, so I'm going back to bed in a second. But I wanted to say THANK YOU to everyone who helped us with the wedding and everyone who came and everyone who bought us presents including the very sleazy presents from the Est store that we tried out last night. Well, some of them. We're saving more for the honeymoon. Love and kisses! | ||||||
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August 21st, 2011
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OC note: Assume that a save-the-date was sent out much earlier so everyone could clear schedules, etc. The invitation below was mailed to Jess Alba & Chris Vance, Jonas Armstrong, Paget Brewster, Gabriel Byrne, John Cho & Kerri Higuchi, Nick Frost, Enver Gjokaj, Bruce Greenwood, Matthew Gray Gubler, Chris Hemsworth, Marlee Matlin, Chris Pine, Zoe Saldana, Jesse Spencer & Julian McMahon, Karl Urban, Shane West, Anton Yelchin, Billy Zane, and anyone obvious I've left out. We're not doing a bar chat, but of course anyone's welcome to coordinate logs! | ||||||
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July 27th, 2011
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On the outside: A little fairy told me it was your birthday... (Jon's version has a couple of tiny chains draped across him, a cane in his hand instead of a spear, and a tiny dildo instead of a crystal ball) On the inside: ...a kink fairy! Happy birthday, Jon. You've made lots of happy things happen in my life with your posts. I hope happy things happen in your life, too. Jons deserve it. Best, Jon (Wolfe Nelson) | ||||||
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July 23rd, 2011
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To: ![[info]](http://www.journalfen.net/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small} cho@Est.rpgFrom: est_nelson@Est.rpgSubject: A good morning thought You make me feel safe like this. ps-I have coffee on in my room if you want to come snuggle. | ||||||
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July 9th, 2011
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| [public to Est] I went on a shopping spree! What do you think? ;-) | ||||||
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June 26th, 2011
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| To: est_thandie From: est_nelsonSubject: Furniture needs. Thandie, Can I buy one of these and put it in your room at our house? I can get some dark red fabric and dark wood stain to make it match everything else. Love, Jon | ||||||
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June 18th, 2011
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| ( An impulsive buy for JJ ) | ||||||
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June 16th, 2011
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| [players not pups, backdated to June 12] "I forgot how popular kids are at Pride," Jon laughs as yet another cheerful effeminate gay guy drapes something rainbow-colored and sparkly over the handle of JJ's stroller and kisses Jon's cheek spontaneously before waltzing away. Even more amusing is that he's pretty sure everyone thinks he's the gay guy with the supportive straight ally family, given his traditional tiny shorts and glitter-chested lack of shirt. "And someone is certainly dressed for the occasion," John snickers. Not only is his son in a rainbow striped stroller -- one used every day, not just for Pride -- he's wearing a little rainbow striped hat and rainbow shoes. John is somewhat more conservative, in a NoH8 shirt and jeans. He can't quite pull off rainbow-wear. ( I was going to put him in a rainbow tie-dye overall to match my shirt... ) [comments welcomed and screened] | ||||||
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May 20th, 2011
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| ( To Thandie ) ( To Kerri Cho ) ( To Jess ) | ||||||
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