What time is it? Time for a rant!
Whee! I mean, dammit I'm mad! *giggle* Just kidding. Pontificating as usual.
The latest 'Elijah-is-girly-thread' made me stop and think about my own personal experiences with effeminate men.
I will admit I have a penchant for skinny white boys with pretty faces. If a guy is delicate, it's very attractive to me. Not that I haven't dated uber-testosterone-loaded males or the "muy-macho" types. It's just that I find sweet, sensitive, funny, weird boys make the best companions (for me anyway). And this is not to pidgeon-hole anyone; it's just that in my experience, all the guys I met and dated who had these qualities were skinny white boys (some pretty, some just pretty dorky).
Anyhoo, delicate beauty on a guy doesn't mean he is screaming for a big strong man. Otherwise, pretty much 80% of my exes are gay (someone should break the news to their wives...yes, most of my exes are married). It's heredity, DNA - they can't help it!
I give you two examples. The first is an employee of mine. I have often described him as Lij-like because he is small and slim, with a delicate beauty that is both delicious and devilish. He is also obsessed with music and obscure bands, but that is beside the point. This kid is a horn dog. He flirts with all the girls at work, has had several girlfriends, and is very much what I would deem a "typical" boy.
My older brother is gay. There is nothing in his demeanor to express this. He is slender, but not delicate. Heredity has made him handsome, but not beautiful. When you talk to him, he comes across as funny, a little weird, and very sweet. Most of my friends are/have been in love with him forever. None of them ever suspect he is gay until we tell them. The only way you would know is when you overhear the two of us gushing about cute boys. ^_~
See? Everyone IS different! Just because you have a certain body type or talk a certain way or have an affectation of character doesn't make you gay/straight/bi. A guy can like eyeliner and be straight. And a girl can dig a femmy-looking guy and not be a lesbian.
I'm just sayin'...I think I should have taken that left turn at Albuequerque.
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