| I ponder the news from The Torn Party...
||[Apr. 27th, 2003|12:02 pm]
|||||"Only Time" by Enya||]|
From MsA's own LJ comes the report of her meeting with Dom.
I re-introduced myself to Dom: "Hi, not sure if you remember me-- I'm MsA, MsAllegro"
Dom (lights up with a huge grin as he's shaking my hand): Hey! You're crazy!!
Now stop me if I'm wrong, me dears. But if *I* had spent the past several months of my life obsessing over two people and their one true lurve... obsessing to the extent of zillions of DL posts, endless LJ ramblings, FAQ's, Databases.. and on and on.. ALL ostensively to be of 'help' to these poor guys who are so horribly oppressed by the PR devils.. I do believe I'd be a bit worried if, when I finally actually get CLOSE to one of them.. their only response to me was: "Hey! You're crazy!'
First off, I'd feel embarrasssed because I'm there with friends, and since I'm very vocal about my 'cause' a lot of people know what I'm about. This was not the best thing I could have heard from one half of the couple to whom I have devoted my life!
Second of all, I'd feel a bit pissed. It was a rude thing to say. Unless.. unless....
Third, I do believe at this point I'd start to wonder if maybe.. just maybe.. the 'cause' I'd been obsessing over wasn't quite the 'sure thing' I've led myself ( and a bizillion others) to believe it is.
To me.. anyone who didn't have skin so thick it could repel an armor piercing missle would have at least felt a moment of 'pause' upon hearing such a statement.
But the heroine of our story has no such introspective inclinations. She posted about this exchange as though Dom's remark was the most totally friendly and supportive comment possible instead of the mocking put down it sounds like.
This is part one of our story.
Part two goes like this.
Here's our heroine... finally face to face with one half of the couple she has devoted her time, life, energy, and effort to for lo these many months. She has devoted herself unswervingly to 'helping' them fight their battle. She has supported their 'cause' with her every breath.
Finally! FINALLY she is in a postion to get SOME kind of validation. Anything. An unobtrusive wink and nod. A whispered word in her ear as he hugged her. A discreet 'thumbs up' sign. An inconspicuously mouthed 'thank you'. None of these gestures, or any other one can think of, would have been difficult, or even very conspicuous. Onlookers would not have even suspected the 'real' reason for Dom's little message. But the validation would have been there just the same.
Did any such thing happen? No. Nothing even close. You can bet that if so much as a suggestion of validation had come their way.. we would have known about it within minutes.
And once again, it seems to me as tho a bit of reflection is called for here. Dom called her 'crazy' and he gave her not one scrap of validation even though to have done so would not have been difficult in any way.
Either of these situations would have been enough to get me thinking. But apparently MsA does not see either of these situations as significent. And what this says to me is what this situation has always said to me.
Dom's words to her and the absense of any significent exchange with him that would have validated even one of her 'theories', is meaningless to her. And, to me, the reason for her lack of concern is that Dom is meaningless to her.
It is not, and to my mind never HAS been, about the guys. Nothing makes that clearer then this most recent encounter with the one of the needy, pitiful, repressed gay-boys so desperately in need of her help. This entire situation is about getting some attention. Any kind of attention. Even having the object of your obsession call you 'crazy' is ok because any attention from 'them' is better than none.
And this person has the nerve to then turn around and call Sean Astin a 'dork'.
Her encounter with Sean:
I greeted Sean by saying "Hi President Astin!" Aww, I know. I couldn't help it :)
....Sean was cute but a big dork.
I'm afraid I'm left with only one burning question. WHO'S a dork?
And you know what? If she'd kept her big mouth shut about Sean.. I might have even felt a bit sorry for her about the rest. But, no.
Sit down, MsA. And havo the fuck dad. Your credability has left the building.
2003-08-14 01:05 am (UTC)
I LOVE that!!!!!!1
Can I make an icon out of it?!!!
Major happy dance!!!!!!
Dom will get a huge smootch from me if I ever meet him. C'ourse I'd rather smootch Lij but dom deserves a big one for that!
I love it!!!!